Posted: 18 September 2018 at 11:07am | IP Logged
First in a twisted way I think the CVs have been a success. Why? The very fact that people are making posts after posts trying to understand the characters, the justifications, the arguments, the counter arguments, the endless debates & fights proves that the CVs ve at least aroused strong emotions in the viewers. Its another matter that those emotions are largely negative & critical but still must give credit where it is due
Marriage & relationships are very complex topics since humans & their emotions are complex. What drives each of us. What do we seek in life. What do we crave for? What is our end game. Each person would have different answers for these questions. Some would say Money, some Power, some fame, some love, some security. Despite the different answers almost every one would add Love along with any of the other answers. What is the point of being wealthy if you dont have someone to share it with. No matter how famous you are at the end of the day an empty house will only depress a person. If u read the life history of many celebrities though they had a glittering career, many ended up dying alone, depressed or discontented. So unless you are a psychopath everyone of us needs some one to love us. A sense of security that no matter what the other person is there to support you when you need a shoulder to lean, lift you when you fall down, encourage you when you are feeling low, cheer you when you succeed & console you up when you lose. When 2 people marry this is what is the underlying thread. Marriage means love, care, commitment, loyalty.
But sadly marriages do break, relationships fail, families are torn apart. How can 2 people who started with loving each other end up hurting each other. In this case Kunal & Mauli seemed to be madly in love with each other. They seemed perfectly compatible couple. Understanding each other & completely in sync. But now add a question mark at the end of each of these assumptions. If they were indeed in love then why did Kunal cheat on Mauli. If they were compatible why seek a woman who is exact opposite of his wife. If they were in sync why the disconnect between the couple.
On the surface K & M seem well matched but if you observe closely K & N actually have more in common. Both are not initiators. They seem to drift along in life aimlessly unless there is a push. K did not pursue his dream of charity clinic. N did not have the strength to break out of her abusive marriage. In both cases ironically Mauli was the catalyst who worked to open a clinic & pushed Nandini to finally walk out of her marriage. Both are impulsive. K quit his job in a second without thinking of the consequences. N started an affair with K & slept with him in a moment of weakness again not thinking through the aftermath. Both are emotionally clingy. Both are impractical. So if you actually stop & think its K & N who are similar in character & have more in common. So then if opposites attract why then is K more attracted to N than M. Reason is this hero complex of K. Frm the beginning they show glimpses of this character quirk. By quitting his job he is making a grand statement. He could ve stayed back & quietly tried to help the patients who are being scammed. But he chose a grander exit. Again on that highway where he jumped to save the pregnant woman & her child. Then chasing N & saving her from a car. Kunal needs to feel like a hero, his actions subtly hint this. In each of these incidents rather than taking a boring, practical approach he chose the hero approach where he is the savior. He craves this adulation & admiration which he never got from M who is a very strong, practical person. Equals or more than equal. With N he gets to play the Knight in Shining Armor. A person worthy of worship. In short N makes him feel like a King. Its not just cooking or wearing dresses of his choice. Its the underlying message from N that Kunal is her world & her entire life revolves around him. He enjoys that attention. To Mauli, Kunal is the biggest part of her life. To Nandini Kunal IS her life. Everything she does is for him, with him or about him. She lives to please him. This is what attracts Kunal towards Nandini. It feeds his ego. Hence his affair with N. I am sure even in bed N allows him to dominate.
But at the end of the day they are similar but are they compatible. If they marry will their marriage succeed. My answer is No. In marriage the 2 partners are the Yin & Yang 2 forces balancing each other. Mauli's practicality was balanced by Kunal's dreamy nature. Mauli's planning was balanced by Kunal's impulsiveness. Mauli's serious nature was balanced by Kunal's fun loving attitude. Mauli's bossiness was balanced by Kunal's laziness. Mauli's ambition was balanced by Kunal's laid back Let's live in the moment approach. Hence their marriage worked. They were happy & content. Even their families & friends loved them. But in the case of Kunal & Nandini they are too similar. There is no balance. Both are emotionally stunted & need a stronger person to support them. Both lack foresight. Both lack financial planning. Both have wavering mind & are easily impressionable. Both lack maturity. Such a partnership will not sustain in the long run. Down the line Kunal is bound to get frustrated by Nandini's over dependency on him. Nandini will start feeling inferior, insecure & keep comparing herself with Mauli. Kunal & Nandini may have a spicy affair. But their relationship is doomed & will break in the end. I know this is a show & they are the leads so they will end up together. But in real life a Kunal & Nandini can never manage a successful marriage. They may stay together for the sake of society & kids but the 2 will end up being discontented & unhappy.
At the end of the day what Kunal & Mauli had was a successful marriage. Nandini needs a much stronger, mature person some1 probably like MSK frm Geet. And no this has got nothing to do with the actors but the characters played by them. You cant ve 2 weak people marrying, neither can you have 2 strong person marrying each other. For eg Mauli is NOT suited to marry some1 like ASR because both are bossy, dominant, strong personalities & will only end up getting on each other's nerves. I dont know what the CVs ve planned but it would be very sloppy writing if they show KUNAN ending up having a HEA... I am not saying this because I am against EMA & hate these 2 characters. I am saying this because they are not compatible as a couple.
Edited by Angels11 - 18 September 2018 at 11:13am