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Disclaimer- I am not defending anyone here. But I have to share my views. Talk strictly about the characters and not actors. If you don't agree, then disagree politely. Don't bash.
I haven't been watching the show but forum is something I can't leave.
So, there have been lot of posts about whether Kunal never loved Mauli & whatever he is feeling for Nandini is for the first time.
Kunal did & does love Mauli very much. Love feels differently with different people. With some it feels easy, with some intense, sometimes passionate. Just because it's different sort with 2 people doesn't mean it wasn't love at all. Mauli loves Kunal too. Otherwise she would have not been working so hard to fulfill Kunal's dreams. In no way, Kunal-Mauli relationship till now was that of a friendship kind only. It was balanced just like it should be.
I will take my own example- my feelings for my first crush were so intense that I couldn't even talk to him without letting out my vulnerability. Almost everybody around me could tell about my feelings for him. And those developed from the very first time I saw him. After I left school, my feelings became less but never gone. Probably I was immature enough back then.
Then came my second crush in graduation college after 3 years. Again it was kind of first sight thing. But with him I could talk freely about almost every single thing just like best friends & still be normal around him. I was his emotional counselor as he was dealing with breakup phase at that time. By the time he proposed, I was already over him. No one could tell if I ever had any feelings for him. Even today, we joke, laugh & talk about all the other stuff. Ever since, I found no one to have crush on.
In both the cases, my feelings were strong enough & were of romantic kind initially but with one it came as difficult to deal with while with the other, it was relatively very easy.
Not all love stories follow the same path.
1. Some begin with friendship & later develop into passionate & intense ones.
2. Some begin with passion and develop into friendship over time.
3. Some have a perfect mix of friendship & passion & that goes on hand in hand.
4. Some begin with love & end up on hate.
5. Some begin on hate & end up on love.
6. Some begin normally with no strong feelings but later develop stronger- arranged marriages.
7. Some on love & end up on neutral emotions.
Kunal-Mauli relationship belongs to the 1 & 3 kind. Beginning episodes did show the passionate side of their relationship as well which came of easily like it normally does with couples who have been together for longer time. Kunal-Mauli's relationship is what exists in real life. Kunal-Nandini is what is shown on TV with drama added to it.
It's been a long time since Kunal-Mauli's marriage. Kunal is used to be with Mauli all the time. And this shell would have never broken if he wasn't unknowingly drawn to qualities that he wants to see with Mauli. I repeat again, Kunal is not drawn to Nandini but to the qualities that he fails to see in Mauli. Sometimes, some things imprint hard on your mind & that leads to overshadowing of everything that you have held dear for all these years. He is so used to be with Mauli that he fails to see the freshness in his marriage anymore. He fails to see Mauli's bubbly, caring, mature personna With Nandini he is drawn to the newness. He is unconsciously comparing Mauli with Nandini, something he shouldn't be doing & he knows it.
Who says that love marriages can't break? Look at
1. Hrithik-Suzzane- there was a time these two were irrevocably in love with each other.
2. Saif- Amrita- Even they did love marriage right? And everybody know the situation now.
3. Brad Pitt- Jennifer Aniston- most talked about couple in the world at that time.
4. Brad-Angelina- They were literally couple goals for many.
6. KSG-Jennifer Winget
5. And the list is long.
Can you say, that they didn't love their partner? NO, they did, but then second one came much strongly that could change every relationship in their life.
The concept of true love is over-rated as hell. Truth is that many a times, we encounter feelings which shouldn't be there but we can't help it. The decision we take at those complex times, is what makes or breaks a relationship & person's individual image as well. Same is the case with Kunal. He knows that he shouldn't be feeling like this & yet he is failing to stop himself from thinking about her.
There are two things-
1. To love someone- most of the relationship fall in this category, like that of parents, siblings, friends, children, ex-gf, bf, etc. You love them even unconsciously. Feelings are balanced for everyone & not very strong for just one person.
2. To be in love with someone- Exclusive to romantic relationships. You need to fall in love with your partner everyday to keep that passion alive, to ensure that your unconscious self doesn't overpower your conscious self. Feelings in this case are very strong for one particular person.
Eg. For those who have watched FRIENDS, Ross always loved Rachel but he was not in love with her always. Similarly, Joey always loved Rachel but he was in love with her only at certain point of time.
Kunal loves Mauli & but he falling in love with Nandini. We love multiple people at the same time but we can't be in love with 2 people at the same time, we have to make a decision about one sooner or later. Even if Kunal-Mauli break, Kunal will still love Mauli but in a different manner but he won't be in love with her any longer.
In no way, I am, can or will defend Kunal. This storyline will end up making him a cheater. And he literally is on his way of infidelity which needs to be condemned. Kunal's cheating will be all the more horrible for sensible viewers because of Mauli's character which is very sensible & in love with Kunal & Mauli-Nandini being the best friends. If someday, Kunal chooses his feelings for Nandini over his relationship with Mauli, he will be coined a cheater, which he will be for sure in that situation.
All I can say is that relation with some people is more stronger than with the other. And this I can say from personal experience.
In my opinion, this storyline is just highlighting how adultery is a complex & grey thing rather than that of black or white. And some things are hard to be accepted in grey list. They are always going to be measured in either black or white. And that's exactly why makers are trying to show potential affair in a romantic light to show it as a complex thing rather than a black-white thing. We want utopia but reality is harsh & perfection is a myth. Utopia can never be achieved just like perfection.
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