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I'm asking this question both generally and with respect to the show - What do you think is the right way for a person to fall in love?
First scenario - Take Mauli out of the scene, or say she's just a mutual friend or acquaintance of Kunal and Nandini, would you still label Kunal's feelings for Nandini as corrupt? The way that he's drawn towards her, would that be him falling in love with her, or would it still be lust? His immature behavior - would it be cute or would it still be creepy? His crazy antics - would they be weird/wrong/immoral or would they be romantic/passionate? All in all, would this be the right way for him to fall in love with her?
Second scenario - Bring Mauli into the scene as Kunal's girlfriend and not wife in the same situation. What would your views be?
Third scenario - Whatever is actually happening in the show. What are your views on Kunal falling for Nandini?
My views -
The first scenario is the classic 'boy tries to win girl's heart' thing with no *other* strings attached, so the answer is obvious.
The second scenario is something which I have faced (I won't say which one I was), but I know this - it is possible to fall head over heels in love with someone else really fast even when you are in a committed relationship. And that second relationship can work out better than the previous one. However, the entire process is quite painful and difficult as the people involved go through an excruciating phase. But after this process, everyone changes for the better. They become stronger and more mature. And when they look back, they realize that it was all for the best. There is a person who was wrong - the one who cheated, but everything is yin and yang ultimately; so he or she pays for it. The person who has cheated suffers the most, because he or she has to carry the extra burden of guilt in addition to constant reprimand attacks from the ex as well as his or her mutual friends. And after going through the suffering, I believe that person has the right to move on, to be happy, to love again. And that love, even if it's for the person with whom they cheated on their girlfriend or boyfriend, is love - it's not lust, and it's not wrong.
Before talking about the third scenario, I'd like to say that there can be no reason good enough to 'justify' an extramarital relationship. In context to the show, Kunal falling for Nandini doesn't have to be because of something wrong with Mauli or their marriage. It can just happen for no reason. It really can. Having said that, the third scenario, to me, is different from the second one in terms or degree. The amount of suffering is much higher and will probably last for a longer time. It will be much more complicated and messy. And when it's all over, if the cheating spouse and his or her lover are still going strong, then yes, that is love. This isn't something that I have faced but I have seen it very closely. With respect to the show, Kunal's feelings for Nandini could be temporary or permanent. I am open to seeing how the story unfolds. If KuNan do fall in love and last after all the trials and tribulations, I'm with them.
This is a show portraying how complicated emotions are, which is the truth of life. I know that many of you are not happy with the show, and I'm really not trying to bash anyone here, but I think I understand and connect with the show because of my personal experiences. 10 years back, I would have been a hater of the show too. But driving through entangled and complicated relationships into a marriage (which is the most complicated of them all) has changed me.
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