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Zephyr_57 IF-Rockerz

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Posted: 07 June 2018 at 8:04am | IP Logged

It was his game

That he made me play

He promised me it'll be fun

Better than molding a clay

Take off your clothes

Show me your skin

They're the basic rules

To  win.

Child molestation, which is also known in psychiatric terms as pedophilia, is a crime that involves indecent sexual relations between an adult and a child.

According to the Child Molestation Research and Prevention Institute (2010), "It is estimated that at least two out of every ten girls and one out of every ten boys are sexually abused by the end of their 13th year." According to National Child Abuse Statistics (2010),"90% of child sexual abuse victims know the perpetrator in some way; 68% are abused by family members."

With this startling information, it is vital that adults find as many opportunities to speak with their children at an early age, to strongly monitor the adults that their children interact with on a daily basis, and to inform the child that this issue is very much prevalent in today's time and world. 

Until 2012, there was no appropriate legal framework in India which deals with child sexual abuse. Earlier sex crimes against children were protected by section 354, 375, 377,509 of Indian Penal Code

Section 354 : Assault or criminal force to woman with intent to outrage her modesty

Section 374:  deals with rape

Section 509 : states any person who intends to insult the modesty of a woman through word, gesture or act

Section 377 : deals with unnatural offence

In the year 2012, the Parliament of India has passed the Protection oChildren against Sexual Offences Act (POSCO) for the victims of child sexual abuse below 18 years of age.

h e   c t   C o v e r s

  • Exhibitionism. An adult revealing genital organs to the child and influencing the child to do the same for them.
  • Touching and fondling of a child. An adult touches the child's genital organ with hands or with other objects and persuading the child to touch their genitalia.
  • Assault which includes rape and sodomy. An adult having anal, oral and vaginal intercourse with a child with or without penetration.
  • An adult is persuading or encouraging a child to hear, read or view anypo*nographic material.
  • An adult forcing a child to indulge in anysexual activity.
  • An adult marrying a minor, or minor marrying another minor is considered to be a forced relation.

v e r v i e w   f   h e  c t  :

POSCO Act is gender neutral. The consent of the child is immaterial under this act.

This law mandates the reporting and recording of sexual abuse against a child. Section 19(1) of the POSCO Act makes it compulsory to report the offence.

This act lists the sexual crimes committed against a child.

Section 3 of the POSCO Act states: "A person is said to commit "penetrative sexual assault" if (a) he penetrates his penis, to any extent, into the vagina, mouth, urethra, or anus of a child or makes the child to do so with him or any other person; Since the words "any other person" are used in Section 3(a), women may also be offenders or victims under the second part of Section 3(a)"

It also provides protection to minors during the judicial process. Section 5(j): "Whoever commits penetrative sexual assault on a child, which in the case of female child, makes the child pregnant as a consequence of sexual assault. However, even in these offences, women can be joined as abettors under Section 16, POCSO Act.

u n i s h m e n t s   U n d e r   h e   A c t  :

"As per section 42 of the POCSO Act, where an act or omission constitutes an offence punishable under this Act and also under sections 166A, 354A, 354B, 354C, 354D, 370, 370A, 375, 376, 376A, 376C, 376D, 376E or section 509 of the Indian Penal Code, then notwithstanding anything contained in any law for the time being in force, the offender found guilty of such offence shall be liable to punishment under this Act or under the Indian Penal Code as provides for punishment which is greater in degree.

  1. For penetrative sexual assault, the sentence not less than seven years extended up to life imprisonment along with fine under section 4 of the POSCO Act.
  2. Aggravated sexual assault committed by a person of trust or authority like police officer under section 6 would be punished with not less than ten years and extended up to rigorous life incarceration and fine.
  3.  Non-penetrative sexual assault committed by a person with sexual intent must be punished with not less than three years and extended up to 5 years of imprisonment under section 10 of the POSCO Act.
  4. Under section 10, if the aggravated sexual assault is done by the authority or by the person of trust, it would be punished with not less than five years and extended up to seven years of incarceration.
  5. For sexual harassment under section 12 of the POSCO Act, prescribes a punishment of 3 years along with fine.

Children are blooming flowers of God's paradise. They should be nurtured and protected. Considering their comfort level IPC providesfollowing provisions.


1.      As soon as the matter is reported to the police officer, within 24 hours, the case should be presented before the Child Welfare Committee.

2.      The statement of the minor should be recorded in his or her home or his or her favourite place only by a female police officer.

3.      This act also provides a speedy trial and in camera proceedings to ensure confidentiality.

4.      The minor should not be called in the court repeatedly. He or she may be testified through video from home.

5.      The medical examination must be conducted by a female doctor, in the presence of a person whom minor trusted. Consent of the parents or guardians if present, otherwise the consent of medical professional on the behalf of a minor is required.

6.      The defence should route the entire question through the judge and cannot ask any aggressive or character assassination questions to the juvenile.

7.      The minor should not be exposed to accused in any way during the recording of evidence.


The cases like two minor girls are assaulted by the manager of Baba Deep Jyoti Anath Ashram in Odisha, or boys sodomized by guards and senior inmates at govt. run Ashiana home for boys, Delhi or Arya Orphanage Case, Delhi- abuse of a child in Juvenile Justice Homes. Case of Asifa are some of those that are reported in India but sexual abuse of a child is still to some extent veiled in secrecy. 

It is essential for parents and guardians of the child to get sensitized and understand the degree of the problem. It is also crucial for the parents to create a protective environment for the child and to guide their children how to protect themselves from sexual abuse.




Edited by misanthropist. - 08 June 2018 at 5:36am

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Sonatia IF-Dazzler

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Posted: 07 June 2018 at 9:03am | IP Logged

Regarding sexual abuse, Stamps says that 80 percent of incidents occur during one-to-one interactions between an adult and a child. "So one of the prevention tips that anybody can do is to really be cautious especially in child-serving organizations, says Stamps." For example, keep doors open, and have two adults with one child. When situations can be either observable or interruptible, you will greatly eliminate the ability for a perpetrator of abuse to commit their crime.
Here is some important safety precautions that should be undertaken to prevent the risks of child molestation.

  1. The good touch and bad touch : A child should be able to know the difference between the good touch and the bad touch. Hugging, kissing on cheeks, forehead lightly is the good ones but anything in the excessive limit is bad. Kissing on lips, rubbing against body, touching inappropriate places is a strict no. Giving a child idea that private parts should be private and should not be open to strangers except for doctors. 
  2. Discipline your child: Discipline is a way to teach a child good behavior although you should never discipline your child when you are upset.
  3. Examine yours and other's behavior: Abuse is not just about  actions or physical. Sometimes words can cause deep wounds and mental traumas. Be caring and loving towards a child so that they can trust opening up to you when something wrong happens.
  4. Talking and communication: Communication is very important in this matter. Talk to your child daily and keep interest in every single details of their life. A good communication with your child will help you to know if your child is a victim of any abuse.
  5. Observe their surrounding: Never leave your child with strangers. It is advised to keep two adults with one child. Also observe if your child is spending too much time with someone or if they want to avoid the encounter with some certain people. Trust nobody, offenders are also reported to be their relatives, neighbors in many cases. Pay surprise visit to them when they are with your child. 
  6. Attending to your child's complaints/ and sudden changes: Is your child scared of going to school, tuition? Don't ignore this he/she might have been a victim of bullying. Having nightmares, wetting bed, curiosity about sexual information, depression etc can be suspicious and should not be ignored.
  7. Interact with other parents: Interacting with other parents in your community will be a great help in this matter. Helping vulnerable children and supporting child abusing programs is a great step towards prevention.
  8. Let your child know about their rights: Let your child know that they have rights to be safe. An abuse directed towards them is not their fault but the offender's and they should report them.
    :   K  n  o  w    T  h  e    S  i  g  n  s  : 
  • Physical signs of sexual abuse is not common, although rashes, swelling in genital area, urinary tract infection should be carefully observed. Physical symptoms associated with anxiety may cause head aches, stomach pains etc.

  • Behavioral signs are more common. These can be "too perfect" or even withdrawal with depression and unexplained anger out burst or rebellious to some extent.

  • Sexual behavior or language should not be taken lightly.

  • But be aware sometimes there is no signs at all.
Caring for an abused child: 
  1. Don't overreact: It's very important to stay calm in front of your child. Treating with anger or disbelief will cause the child to shut down or they will change the story and might never dare to talk about the same.
  2. Nurture the children: They need to be cared, loved, rocked and held. The victims mostly have attachment problems. You should stay alert and attuned to their responses to your nurturing and act accordingly. Be aware that their past have been associated with pain, torture and sexual abuse.
  3. Being consistent, predictable and repetitive : Maltreated children with attachment problems are very sensitive to changes in schedule, transitions, surprises and chaotic situations.  Or in general any new situations, busy and unique situation is overwhelming for them. Birthday parties, sleepovers, family trips can cause negative effect on them. You need to provide them a surrounding which is peaceful, soothing and make them feel safe and warm.
  4. Be patient: Deal with them being patient. Being associated with pain torture, sexual abuse in past take time for them to open up or to respond and progress. Being impatient, inconsiderable or aggressive will make it worse.
  5. Listen to and talk with these children:  Its like one of the most important things. The best way to talk to these children is to sit down and listen and being present in the moment play with them. They will start becoming interactive and open up to you soon.  Interact with them as per their emotional age. The abused ones may be socially delayed like a ten year old might be like a two year.
  6. Discipline them: The victims might not have appropriate social behaviors but never discipline them when you are in bad mood. Be patient while teaching them and more over try to understand behaviors before going to any consequences.

-Koeli_Appy- -Strikhedonia-

Edited by Sonatia - 07 June 2018 at 9:14am

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mickyfoxx Groupbie

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Posted: 11 June 2018 at 2:35am | IP Logged
This is really very serious issue as Children are most innocent and sensitive human...How could someone be so stone hearten to hurt them.Some of the children are not even aware that what had happen to them,They can't explain the cruelty they had gone through. Its really very shameful crime,those who commit should be hang to death.

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IdioTinTin IF-Sizzlerz

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Posted: 11 June 2018 at 3:14am | IP Logged
It's just so sad whenever I heard about any sexual crime but the times I could just burst in tears are the times I hear about minors being abused, be a baby or a 14 years old.
Only if Indians could be open about all this and enlighten their kids, protect them in a better way and never trust anyone too much. There are even kids who were abused by their own parent. In that case I just wish the mothers would be more careful and listen to their kids and ask them about their days.
I just wish the monsters in our world could get the punishment they deserve. But it's hardly the case, especially in India sexual crimes are left unpunished. The victims never get the justice they deserve.

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FaheemAnsari Newbie

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Posted: 11 June 2018 at 4:00am | IP Logged
Its a bad news for the new generation of India.

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eufara_naghm IF-Rockerz

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Posted: 11 June 2018 at 4:30am | IP Logged
It is actually a very sad matter
The world is developing so well but the people can't change their perspectives towards certain matters
It is a very common crime in the world right now
And it's heinous...
And above all in most cases the guardians try to cover the matter up for their fake doing this they not only damage their child's mentality but also give the offender encouragement! Guardians should become more careful about these matters!
The world should be a safe place for a child but nowadays even their own home is not safe for them...

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...Deeksha.... IF-Dazzler

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Posted: 11 June 2018 at 4:31am | IP Logged
No words to say about this disgusting acts. I have an incident to tell you all on this post. I'm basically a pharm-d student who interns around doctors of all categories for a day or 2 days a week in the entire course. To gain more we used to do two shifts a day and we are basically allowed to every ward other than emergency or OT's. To be frank, when we talk about child abuse, we only think its girls who are mostly abused but this one case has made me realised not only a girl a boy can be equally can be a victim in hands of such monsters.We mean I and my friend were doing case study in one of the children ward, their was a boy about 10, he was admitted due to severe dehydration and parents were unable to describe his behaviour from gee days. He was silent, not interacting with anyone. The one who loved to play was not even interacting with others always closed up. He was damn scared when he see's any round objects. Nightshift nurses reported that he was crying in nights and was only able to calm by giving injections. One of the senior doctor recommended for a psychic consultation. Their he opened up saying whenever he was visiting a play ground, their is this particular women who claims herself to be his mother's friend. She used to make him remove his clothes and used to touch him. The little boy also said he was in pain but the women never listen. When the little boy was telling this we 3 who are present had tears in our eyes. The boy was physically and emotionally abused and the women used to kick the ball in his shin and so he had the phobia with round objects. 
The women was taken into the custody and parents informed us that it was not only the kid but about 6 others were also in the same condition one of them was 15 and he drank the acid and the kid was died when they were bringing him to hospital.

Here I want to conclude parents should take out the time and check where there kids are going. Though we say we live in a 21st century where both our parents work to be modern we also lose the basic communication or to say ease to talk. Child abuse is mostly seen in children who are alone and they don't have anyone to ask such questions. 

So from my side after experiencing such a soul wrenching situation, I want most of the working parents to interact and also be alert by checking all the areas where your child is going. Educating a child is 2nd but communicating and giving them the trust of being there whenever needed will make them more strong.

The child I said is still in emotional pain and its been 6 months, his mom and dad dedicate thier most of the time to make him better. But still the situation he faced will burn his soul for the entire life. 

Edited by ...Deeksha.... - 11 June 2018 at 4:41am

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Zephyr_57 IF-Rockerz

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Posted: 11 June 2018 at 8:52am | IP Logged
Like said child abuse is still veiled in secrecy, I had seen a case in the building I live in...  It was early morning like 3-4 am when the auntie came banging on doors and crying,  the abuser was her own husband and the victim was her own daughter...  The lady had gone to visit her mother and when she entered the house with spare keys she saw her husband literally penetrating her child.  On questioning the girl she confessed that it wasn't the first time,  her dad used to hit her and do dirty things and her mom knew everything...  Neighbours asked to file a police case but we don't know how and when but the couple fled with the girl overnight and they couldn't be traced ever since. The most disgusting thing was that the dad said fruits of the tree must be tasted by the roots first! It was heinous, disgusting and disappointing for a mother to take her daughter and flee with her husband. We still aren't over it hope that girl is fine now :(

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