Sangat (HumTv) - Mikaal, Saba Qamar, Zahid Ahmed - Page 62

Originally posted by: cimba

Society is not sensitive to most woman worthy causes and issues. Her mom's point was that what has happened is not going to change but future should not be ruined because of this. Men in a generalize term are more self absorbed when comes to social situations and not so forgiving. Mom is not telling her to feel good,bad,or ugly just trying to protect marriage and stigma. Right or wrong at times but she is actually trying to shield her daughter from future torture the best way she knows. 

Originally posted by: Meeph

But if you see from a mother's point of view, she is just trying to protect her daughter. She thinks that if the husband doesn't find this out, atleast she will be 'happy' with her husband. By no means it is the right thing to do, but thats how things are in our culture and its just being highlighted here but i am sure she will tell her husband.

Originally posted by: 26javey

"I was fifteen and sexually ignorant, inexperienced. I was assaulted by a cousin - pushed and dragged around, manhandled and molested for over six hours. I cried for an hour when it was over and left in a corner to compose myself, to let it sink in. And then I just didn't cry. I couldn't cry. I told my mother and initially, she didn't believe me and later on, she told me to never talk about it.

I felt confused, ashamed and misunderstood. I don't know what I wanted, whether it was a recognition that something bad had happened and it was going to change me forever. That I was to make my peace with never being able to indict the perpetrator. That this is just the way society is - unflinching in its values without room for emotional healing. I started abusing drugs and redefined my life with ruination. Numbed myself, functioned for years but I was tormented, deeply so. I went to a rehab and got clean and was counseled for my affliction. I came back with the label of being a psychopath. I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. Just another stigma to add to sexual abuse and rehab. However, I was told that it was not society's fault for the way it is - not that it was wrong of my family to handle the issue the way they did - not that there was poetic justice. Because this is how it is, there is no poetic justice. I'm still at a fail to understand whether I will find solace. It doesn't get better, they lie. There is only foreboding."

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I know Sangat is different in terms of age but rape is rape. And it alters the victim regardless of their age. 

Originally posted by: canuck-umz

As long as she does not fall in love with or ends up getting married to her rapist. *Shudder*