Posted: 13 May 2015 at 3:57am | IP Logged
amazing post and frankly all your questions posed are justified but the main question everyone is posing is that pragya has double standards or atleast appears to be so
but here are are four things to be considered-- akash and rachna. rabul . pragya. and in the reality part the writers of the show
akash and rachna- before we can discuss pragyas stand on them lets have a recap akash and rachna were together, he got her pregnant she believed when he married her all in secrecy and then she was miserable when he dumped her and finally with pragyas help she exposed him and then went about her way only to marry him later in the end this too orchestrated by pragya.
in this situation rachna initially was a victim of a false promise and pragya was a friend infact almost a bhabhi to her. she handled a depressed and down girl get her self respect back by exposing akash's lies. at that juncture pragya was actually thinking only of rachna as she should bcoz for her rachna was family suresh or no suresh. she understood the implications on rachna's future of being thought of being characterless when akash didnot step up her decision to keep the baby making it more difficult
later on by fate she became not rachna's but akash's bhabhi and even in the beginning she did not trust akash. here a word about akash. i donot approve of the guy. period. he is indecisive and swayed easily by people doesnt listen to his heart readily especially in matters of heart. here the writers did a brilliant thing . they never showed that akash has stopped loving rachna,he loves her, he just took a materialistic decision goaded on by others throughout his so called marriage he had self doubts. and once his lies were exposed, the words of his bhai and dadi did effect him. there was no dramatic change in him just a gradual one.it made him realise that he was wrong and since he had worked hard for rachnas approval , something that was witnessed by pragya. and in wading the murky waters of mehra house pragya has come to realise that akash is not a bad sort just an indecisive one initially and now even not that since he wanted only rachna . akash has now realised things like responsibility .in short banda sudhar gaya.
and then pragya sees a stupid girl coz frankly that character was irritating a girl who cares more about her brother in laws fame than trying to know the guy she is about to marry( obviously taijis choice for reasons well known) and here pragya takes a decision not just as someone who cares for rachna but also for akash. he is definitely cut up on rachna and so is she. the reasons she gave them for marriage made them see they needed each other and that had not stopped and hence they agreed. here pragya gave an indecisive couple the prod in the right direction coz she was right. it was blasted timing but it was right. the family could take time to thaw but will eventually come around. here we need to remember prags herself didnt think rachna and akash should be married when dadi said so bcoz she knew rachna wasnt ready and her family had been insulted. with the time past wounds have healed hence she was all for racho akash marriage
now lets have a look at rabul and pragya. bb fell for purab and purab fell for bb against his own rules. bbb was unaware of his hitched status but purab was and he was getting around to it ( though he was taking along time) aliyah and abhi both made it difficult for him to have a sane and rational discussion which he anticipated. pragya even though she met purab before was totally unaware of the situation until she married abhi.
here at this point lets remember pragya had two failed matches thru no fault of her own. call it dramatic but sarla ma worry made the decision for her. after pragya married abhi and was made aware of the situation she had options
one she could have frankly told abhi and lot to go jump in a lake - pragya would have loved to do that but the shock that it would be to her mother stopped her. fear when mixed with love is a powerful motivator and this was one of the first reasons she didnt encourage rabul
the second option was keeeping mum which was what pragya did even if it was against her own nature bcoz for one purab was promised to aliya first
two bb clearly told her she knew purab had someone else in his life and hence she didnt want to do anything with him which was a sane decision on her part and with which pragya agreed
three pragya even if she was dadis fav from day one she was basically in a new home amongst strangers people who have welcomed her into their lives- a very bad husband yes( but with a very good reason to be bad and mad at her) and a lovely lady who treated her like a daughter . pragya may be a fav but she had her sense of duty regarding this family as well, at this point any move by her would reflect on both families. she may be a fav but she has to earn their trust to make them understand rabuls love and accept and frankly prags didnot have that position. her marriage would have been broken and in turn her mother would be too so she kept mum.
at puliya marriage prags was against the match not just for rabul's sake but also aliya's. she repeatedly told rabul it would not solve the situation i only wish she would have told them right then that she would be castout once puliya are married that would have stopped rabul well before any fiasco but she didint .
but rabul were adamant about being bali ke bakre and she gave in mainly coz her being ousted might mean a little peace for her too ofcourse rabul didnot think so but still it would have ended many charades and that would have been a relief. her siste r would be heart broken and so would be her mother but the the mehras would leave them alone and i think at that point pragya wanted to be left alone. was it selfish yes it was but she was out of options her not telling about rabul made her vulnerable but telling would have made bb vulnerable to taunts from all sides. once again fear and love.
some might say prags was not a great sis to bb. i think prags always gave bb freedom to make decisions and always backed those decisions. bb decision to forget purab was not right but not completely wrong in the circumstances. bb for long has been hearing she was badluck for prags. prags has been hearing for a longer while that she was bad luck- period. prags pushing for rabul at that point would have made rabul happier later on but the immediate consequences were more serious which is why bb refused to marry purab in mandir and why prags backed her. it is easy to say true love prevails all but it should not take the cowards route and that was what mandir scene between rabul and pragya was. pragya did not tell purab off for wanting to marry bb she told him off for being unable to stick by decisions and their consequences and in the process making a bad situation worse. she was not against rabul as much as purabs timing. yes prags could get out of mehra house dissolve her marriage and be rid of the lot. but what if the price was too high would pragya or bb be able to live with themselves if the situation defamed their mother. sarla ma was physically not stable to receive an emotinal storm which is why prags and bb both were not supporting purab at mandir . educated and self sufficient she may be but prags is also a daughter who was worried for her family's rep and her mothers life. it was an emotional decision. was it right may be not if you cut down to the basics but it was also not wrong and definitely is not a measure of her love for bb but is a measure of her sense of responsibility to do both parties justice. in short prags and bb both were in a bad situation with few ways out and each way would have hurt one person or other so they were trying to salvage the situation by taking the route that would least possible people preferably only them. yet the entire situation was not just theirs to control hence when they tried to control it it only got worse.
but with time abhi and dadi realised rabuls love and also realised aliya never suited purab despite her obsession with him. and even then pragya had concerns for aliya well being( undeserved but still) coz once again prags was thinking of both families. so once abhi convinced her of his genuine wish to help and his support prags happily celebrated rabuls alliance coz her both families are not torn by it which made it even more happy for rabul which was exactly what prags wanted for bb. support for her love from everyone and not alienation.
finally i think writers made appeals to regard the childs future in akash and rachnas wedding coz they were creating ground for prags arguments when tanu truth is out. and basically watching that scene i felt like prags was thinking of tanu as well as akash rachna at the point. the topic of a child is at the moment close to her heart and thoughts coz of dadis wish and also tanus truth.she was apppealing to everyon eon that angle for it had the potential to convince akash and rachna and also both families.
the slap scene is yet to be aired but i dont think that prags deliberately badmouthed dadi. i think her frustation at tanu situation and in her attempt to convince the family regarding akash and rachna broke thru and made her question dadis judgement. but once the damage was done prags decided to continue the game coz it was effective in putting her out of the house.
as far as tanu scenario is concerned, prags is supporting her mainly for the baby but there is also the problem of prags going deaf and i say that coz since she heard the word pregnant from tanu prags has stopped listening as in really listening to abhi. despite abhis passionate speech of hating her so called prank and his obvious hurt prags has not yet clued into the fact that abhi has fallen for her. so even if she heard it she is not ready to believe it that abhi loves her coz that would make it all the more painful to leave him. she has been so prepared to hear his no despite wishing for a yes that she is not ready to acknowledge his love. and she has been rejected enough and in those circumstances it was easier to walk away coz she expected it. but knowing and accepting abhis love and still leaving when she doesnt want to is much more difficult hence she is trying to make it easier for both of them by following hate track. she had just one confession of love at a very bad time against months of hearing that they were not suited for each other from the same person - which would she find more convincing? hence prags is not listening to abhis love and thinks he is better off with tanu and hence the push. but luckily abhi is smarter so i have hopes he will convince prags of his love - abhi style.
so is pragya selfless? no . is she selfish? not entirely . what prags is a very beautiful girl who is made to feel like ugly duckling, a loving wife under the mu that her hubby doesnt reciprocate said love and a daughter and daughter in law scared for her ma and dadi. so once again she is working with what she has and one cant put her decisions under simple labels such as selfish or selfless. pragya is many things but she is also human hence she will have faults and will take wrong decisions for right reasons .
finally pragya is a character and characters are based on not complete reality but parts of it. characters are based on people but not completely only in parts that too the dramatic versions coz it is a drama. so most of the times to highlight a characters certain traits some traits are given backseat or altogether ignored. thats what keeps happening to all these above characters. hence
all of us suffer inconsistency for sake of drama in the story
p.s. sorry if the post is too long