Posted: 13 May 2015 at 9:21pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by Nisha0604
Originally posted by nividances
Originally posted by blue5sky
Originally posted by nividances
This was a recent Humans of Bombay post. In the end the girl talks about choice and I think she does a much better job of it than Ms. Padukone managed to do. http://www.buzzfeed.com/imaansheikh/from-kamathipura-to-america
"I've grown up in a red light area, surrounded by the flesh trade all my life. At 12, I've been asked for my 'rate' and cried myself to sleep because I didn't understand it. But you want to know what's worse? It's that the men who came to ask would all be from the 'upper class' as you call it with shiny cars and the perception that they could 'buy' anything. But the women there are my family...they've taken care of me when my mother would have to go work at a factory near by and treated with me so much love and kindness, but I still grew up with a very low self esteem because of my dark color. I don't know why you have to be fair to be beautiful...and because I'm dark I've always been called ugly. Once my 12th standard ended, I decided to make a change. I told the people at my Municipal school that I wanted to study, learn English and make something of myself. That's when I went to an organization called Kranti.
I spent the next year, traveling across India conducting workshops on sex education and that's when I realized that not everyone judges me for my background and kind of got my self esteem back. I've always been a day dreamer, so I randomly just said it out loud one day that I want to go America (at that point I didn't even know if it was a continent, city or a country) and through Kranti's efforts I got a full scholarship at Bard College to study Liberal Arts. We crowd sourced the rest of the money for my accomodation and day to day expenses and my life has just turned around...I've been to semester at Sea, I speak fluent English and have amazing entrepreneurial ideas to make a difference to my home...to Kamathipura.
Yes, open your mind about my home. Accept that people have choices and know that so many women there are in it by choice...because it's their source of livelihood. As Indians, we need to judge less and accept things that are not always in our comfort zone, because my background is not my weakness...I'm me, and no location can define who I am."
As always when I found a breather..i went online and the last page of the thread trying to figure out if I have missed an update.
And I found your article. What a beautiful anti-dote to all that seems to fill the news about India off late.
Could not agree more with the girls definition of choice.Little stories like this are so heart warming. I know many kids like teach English at organisations like Kranti, mothers that teach their maids kids along with their own, bachelors in Bangalore who pay their maids kid's school fees together with the salary they pay her. And then there is the snigger of OH the NGO types at cocktails. You need them afterall they make giving easy for people like us who would like to give but have mile long daily to do lists!
When Kids come back as say ' oh that was easy' after tutoring a needy child there is a glint in the eyes and a sense of peace that comes from giving.
It does not take much to be non-judging a little less ego and space in your mind to think of another. So true Nivi choice can transform yourself and the world around you!
Thank you for the article.
I just love this thread!! Awesome tale, awesome writer and awesome people!
have nice day everyone!
And Nisha who rarely gets to read all that we write...as always waiting for more...
Very well put Asma!
I was reading an Economist article at lunch yesterday about how Indian government is cracking down on NGOs, and the comments talked about Tessta Setalvad and how she stole money from Ford Foundation to line her pockets. This article is refreshing and and hopeful. THANKS SO MUCH FOR SHARING
Being content is the hardest thing in life... even NGOs workers are not immune
Thanks so much for this one
@ red - that's absolutely right Nisha!
I do believe we will all be a lot more happier if we can keep things simple and reach out to need as much as we can rather than be ballistic about the who, why and how?
btw did you read about the KKR SRK mess?
I was also heard in passing about the betting on JJ's release/ detention
No respite from the circus!