Posted: 13 May 2015 at 1:36am | IP Logged
Originally posted by lovely_lady
Honestly, I feel like Dadi puts Dada Ji over her sons. He's her number 1 priority so she doesn't really care about what happens to Ramesh? Like okay no. She cares and attempts to make things better but at the end of the day, she wants Dada Ji's happiness. Which is a good thing for a wife to do, but sad thing for a mother to do.
And Dada Ji does like RN I think. He probably just finds it hard to show it because whenever he feels like he's showing love, they probably do something to make him re-think that love/ make it seem like they don't appreciate his love. Like Dada Ji thinks he did a favor to Ramesh by bringing him back and making him work in GS -- it made him money and he was able to provide for his kids. But he doesn't realize that he didn't do a favor or show his love by securing Ramesh's future -- rather he stifled Ramesh. It's a simple clash of ideologies which isn't resolved or able to come to an impasse due to interference by Nisha or Dadi. None of them let Ramesh really challenge Dada Ji's thinking.
And yeah I forgot it was Viraj's house. Honestly, idk about that. Even if RL move in, they'll NEVER let Viraj visit Nisha. If he attempts to disrespect them and visit her anyway, she'll be PISSED that he insulted her parents. Either way, lose-lose situation for Viraj and kinda takes him out of the picture. I'm hoping that he maybe realizes he should back away or something and gives back the house to the original owner later. whatever, i can dream I guess.
And yeah no Kabir won't be head of cousins gang. I don't see that happening. I just meant that he balances out Ramy specific family LOL. But yeah, I can see Umesh being leader too. Although Umesh is occasionally weak-willed. Which is where Nisha comes in as she dominates on the basis of her will power LOL. aaahhh i miss the cousins gang :(
@bold That's where Dadi has been terribly wrong. She has missed the balance completely. She has always made Ramesh bow down, even when he isn't wrong. She has never supported Ramesh openly. Dadaji definitely loves RN, no doubt, but it seems like conditional love. RN gets respect, love and happiness only when they follow his orders? Why can't Dadaji accept that people can have different ideologies?
Ok...Dadi keeps Dadaji first than Ramesh. But what about the rest of the family? Couldn't she control or change teh way Moren and Rupan treats Ramesh? Why have the brothers got scattered like this? Isn't she responsible for that? She saw Moren and Rupan bad mouthing Ramesh so much during Moren khaand. SHe knows how Moren and Rupan thinks of Ramesh. Shouldn't she have done something to raise the respect level of Ramesh in the house?
Dadaji always considers him bring back Ramesh and making him part of GS as an ehsaan he did for Ramesh. But Ramesh was right. Even if he had struggled being independent, he and his family would have been happy. It's commendable how Ramesh hasn't let his frustrations affect his family.
Kabir would complete Ramesh's happy family. Or say...Kabir would get his dream family in Ramesh's family. Loving parents, caring wife and concerned and to be concerned brothers. He couldn't have asked more.
Umesh- yes. He goes weak and isn't a decision maker like Nisha. But Umesh isn't partial and doesn't have the head weight of being the eldest unlike Viren. Umesh is different from Viren, because he saw Ramesh more as a father.