Posted: 11 May 2015 at 3:41am | IP Logged
Anandi's equation with Ganga is and always has been similar to the bond that she shared with other child brides. But with each one of them she did develop a different bond too.
Phooli and she are childhood friends they were friends from their Bilaria days
Gulli's mother was her friend and with Gulli she had another bond too- she rescued her from child marriage and she got her educated and she was teaching at the school which Anandi started. Because of Anandi Gulli became close to Singhs
Pooja again she was a rescued child bride but it went on to become something deeper because the girl's contribution to the school activities.
Ganga - too she empathised with her because she too was a child bride and she was so horrified when she heard her story. She wanted to take Ganga along with her to her home. But Jagya and Dadisa wanted to take her. Then she got her child back.Irrespective of the fact whether she was married to Jagya her bond would have continued.
Had Shiv and Anandi not moved to Udaipur Ganga and Anandi would have ended up just the way Aanndi and Phooli. Friends.
But BH wasis complicated this - by constantly comparing her with Anandi and trying to see Anandi in her and expected her to behave the same way as Anandi would - She tried in the begining - but even after years they still seem to view her in that way.
All that is happening right now is Ganga wanting to come out of Anandi's shadows in the eyes of BH wasis.
I think all this should stop.
While so much is being discussed about how Ganga is affected nobody seems to be interested in how Anandi is affected in all this.
Did she tell them to make comparisons with her? Did she ever compare herself with Ganga? She never ever comapred herself with Gauri Ganga or even Ashima.How does it become Anandi's fault if Dsa keeps telling that no one makes Adrak chai like Anandi does and how J brings up Anandi in his conversation with his wife to score a point?
Why should she pay the price for the hang ups that Singhs have?
People keep talking about how she kept remembering J even after her marriage every time Shiv came near her
But she kept pushing him away as long as his actions and behaviour reminded her of J which is exactly opposite of J and his relationship with women.
She did not come to this place on her own she came because her husband's family wanted to.
For her home is where she and Shiv lived and that's the reason why she never felt at home in BH.
While BH may not be her home she always did have a bond with Dsa and that was for very valid reasons
People keep saying she out stayed her welcome blah - Who was the reason for that? Was it Anandi or Dsa? Wasn't it Dsa who refused to let her get out of BH?
If Dsa showers her affection on Shivam what is she supposed to do? Reject all that?
For whatever reasons Dsa is the only person she has in this world other than Shivam. Just because the husband and wife use her name in their quarrels she has to forego her relationship with Dsa?
Why should Anandi pay the price?
Why no one says a thing about Dsa who has been tying her up with her love and care?
Why no one says anything about the husband and wife who bring in third person into their arguments?
Jagya does he even matter to her or what he does matter to her? Her equation with him has not changed ever since Shiv entered her life. It will never change.
Anandi's equation with Ganga had always been on of empathy - even now
Jagya - nothing more than a friend
Dsa has changed - her protectiveness and concern has changed to that of possessiveness and clinging kind of relationship.
It is Anandi who is paying the price for the changed perceptions of these people.