Hum bhee reswa
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You know there seems to be a caste system or a hierarchy with how and what we grieve for. If it is a full term and then a stillbirth, grief ought to be more. If it is just a miscarriage, what is the reason to grieve so much?
I wonder if our hearts can distinguish between a child that we conceived of in our hearts versus one that is in our arms?
Is the child borne from the spirit any less of a child than one we nurse?
Isn't a loss a loss and does the heart not break in both instances?
So, why then this caste system? Grieve for this more than that!
I have always thought that our hearts and minds traveled faster than the actual chronometer we inherit. In her mind, Khushi had conceived, gave birth, nursed and loved that child... She didn't need to wait for those entire forty weeks to do that. So, when she lost that baby, (yes, I am calling it a baby, not a fetus) it was no less than anything else. That she is grieving even after two years, makes sense to me. She will probably grieve for that child of hers till her last breath.
And here is what I am taking away from this update Writerji - Your Italian speaking Arnav Singh Raizada is beginning to understand that - that his Khushi (all puns intended) was stuck back in time with her grief. He finally gets that!!! So, to me, this chapter was all about the 'bing' moments that Arnav is experiencing. It is a sort of an awakening in their relationship. It is hope seething below all this pain.
What a clever writer you are... you bring all these insights into this 4500-word chapter, neatly rolled in between the lines and their glances. Take a bow Writerji! Take a bow! You rendered a hardened cynic emotional!
I love this update.. Bas
❤️
Edited by Mirabell - 8 years ago