I think it was Ganga who set tone to the new relationships way back when Shiv and Anandi came to BH with Amol for the first time.
She told Amol that he can call her Kakisa by that coin J became Kakasa to Anandi's kids
Mannu and Abhi calling Anandi Mausiji
So it does look like Anandi and Ganga are more like sisters.
Which I guess must have stalled the embarrassing questions for a few more years.
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But all the same it would be better if Anandi tells Shivam that he had a twin sister who was kidnapped and they are still searching for her just like the way Mannu needs to know that he has two fathers and the one who is raising him loves him like he is his own son without going into too many details.
There is no point telling them all the details which they can't make sense of at this time and confuse them.