My thoughts on love and winning the heart.
A while ago Arunachalam advised Vettaiyan that he shouldn't have won the challenge, the cycle race. The more you make her lose, you will lose her. He started following it a little bit, but his real nature keeps popping up.
Meenatchi is a loving person.
1. Love is as strong as death.
2. Love never fails.
3. Also, love is a weakness.
On Monday, Nov. 09, 2015, Vettaiyan used her love as her weakness to get to her. Her only bargaining chip was telling Sudha that they are acting as husband and wife. When Vettaiyan used her loving personality as a weakness, she was left without guard, weaponless. He got into her space very easily. When Vettaiyan threatened to kill himself on the engagement day, when he kidnapped her to tie thali forcefully, she agreed that he can tie the Thali. She didn't want him to die. That's her personality. He used her loving personality as a weakness. She hated him for that.
If he ever wants to win her heart, he needs to learn to lose. For now, it is not his personality. You don't win someone's heart by buying stuff. Right now he is worshiping her, and that is only gaining her respect. In the beginning Meenatchi told Saravanan, "I didn't like you first. It looked like you were drooling after me (valiyirathu maathiri iruntheechu)." Only thing Vettaiyan has ever done is to drool after her. This usually turn girls off.
First her father did everything to force her to Vettaiyan. Now, her grandfather is doing everything to force her to Vettaiyan. Again, this should turn her off as well. Love usually comes out from inside a person against all odds, just like it formed between Saravanan and Meenatchi. When outsiders try to make it happen, it is called coercion. Coercion is a crime in many countries.
When Tamil wanted to engage Meenatchi to Vettaiyan, Saravanan and Meenatchi used their loving personality to work. They didn't fight back, nor challenged him. Instead, they decided to let go of their love. It looked like weakness, but worked very strong in his heart. They won his heart. This is the secret to winning someone's heart. Vettaiyan, on the other hand likes to challenge and win. This is the way to lose one's heart.
Now, things like immigration problem and whatever has happened to Saravanan is in the way. I want to see how the power and unfailing nature of love is going to work in Saravanan's and Meenatchi's lives. They both are left without a weapon to fight. Just like for their engagement, they only had their love and it worked for them. Regardless of how great the problem was, they kept falling in love with each other, and kept winning the hearts of many. This time that's all they got against all odds. This time, I hope it will win everybody, including the few people that were left off last time, and resolve their life long family enmity. After all "Love is as strong as death, and love never fails."
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