very apt parallel analogy , NB sa
on to serious wala fart.
Marriage is a gamble - period.
Arranged or love - it doesn't matter. Happiness is not a guarantee in either case nor is one better than the other.
How many times we hear of couples who live in a relationship for years, get married and the marriage crumbles faster than the melting snow caps
How many times we hear of couples who got in an arranged marriage and fell head over heels in love afterward.
The truth is, living with another person, sharing the rest of your life with them, sharing your deepest hopes fears dreams and a future is a big stakes game and you hope the other person is just as invested in the relationship as you are.
Marriage changes the level of commitment even for relationships that have been lived-in for years. There is a certain accountability and permanence that can change the basic dynamics of that relationship. The best of lived-in relationships can crumble under the pressure.
Marriage is not for everyone, and everyone should not embark on it unless you are sure of making it work. Its better to be in a live-in and be happy than marry and make a muck of it for all. Ok, these are not conventional views nor are they acceptable in most societies - so its not practical or in many cases advisable to tell people to seek love first.
I don't think we can declare with finality one form is better than the other, because happiness comes in many shapes and forms and what makes me happy may make others miserable. very subjective.
Edited by serialjunkie - 10 years ago