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Posted: 05 January 2014 at 11:57pm | IP Logged
I have been away for a week and was not able to analyze last week's episodes. When I came back I am seeing extreme negativity in the forum on Sandhya's confusion. I mean I am surprised everyone is shocked to see a confused Sandhya whereas I had completely expected the same. I dont know why I was the only one who expected her like that. So thought will put a post on why I think Sandhya's confusion is completely justified and this is the perfect way to start the training.
 
Sandhya to me currently is a married woman completely in love with her husband. She still has the dream of becoming an IPS officer. That dream has not changed. Her wide eyes seeing the Indian flag, the confident walk wearing the cadet uniform everything signifies what Sandhya as a person wants at subconscious level.
 
But at a conscious level she is faced with the reality of her marital status. She loves her husband very much. Fate has been cruel to her as her parents were snatched away from her unexpectedly. It took her a long time to get emotionally attached to someone else and currently she is attached to her husband body, mind and soul. Now Sooraj worships Bhabo. Irrespective of knowing tel malish, LC , EA and AD he had never confronted his mother directly on her misdeeds and had used his own methods to bypass them. Bhabo knows she has no control on her other 2 sons. She has seen it during seperation track. But the emotional weakness of Sooraj, the love and respect he gives her is exploited by Bhabo by conferring titles like Shravan kumar, Ram etc.. on him. Her idea is he has to live for her , according to her rule book for her happiness only. I mean Sooraj is the way of holding power in RM by Bhabo. Sooraj does not understand this exploitation and he continues to be a devot son. Sooraj treats Sandhya at par with his family only not above family. I mean at no point he has been really able to overcome Bhabo and still uses her as an emotional clutch.
 
For Sandhya Bhabo's unhappiness thus spells a doom for her marital life. I mean she is not sure whether Sooraj can really stand for her needs and career standing up against Bhabo. She is not sure whether he can stay apart from his family. She is not sure if she for some reason not able to keep her EV how far Sooraj will go for her sake. I mean if EV is not kept more AD and EA are in store for Sandhya and Sooraj just like last week will stand as a mute spectator allowing his mother to do the rampage.
 
So Sandhya's confusion is because of the love she has for Sooraj. That love currently is her biggest weakness. She is afraid of losing Sooraj if she annoys Bhabo. Understand that it was a confident Sandhya who went for SBC when Sooraj spoke confidently for her rights to Bhabo. It had not mattered to her Bhabo doesnt like her dream when Sooraj was confident. So for Sandhya to emerge as the confident IPS officer Sandhya Sooraj Rathi Sooraj has to cut his apron strings and stand by her when it matters most and he may have to be willing to walk out even for her sake. Once Sandhya knows that Sooraj will be with her irrespective of circumstances that strong woman will emerge.
 
Sandhya Arvind Kothari was strong because Arvind Kothari was always there for his daughter and for Sandhya Sooraj Rathi to be that strong she has to get the security that Sooraj Rathi will be always there for her no matter what.
 
Just think it from the perspective of a married and ambitious woman. The woman will emerge strong and  confident only if she has completel faith and security in her relationship with her husband.  

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Posted: 06 January 2014 at 12:02am | IP Logged
Exactly Shruthi Ji

And add me too..

I am also expecting this Sandhya same U expect..

And Well Said Ji




Edited by ayishas - 06 January 2014 at 12:00am

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Posted: 06 January 2014 at 12:35am | IP Logged
Shruthi I agree with you that sandhya is a confused woman...but I dont understand what security she wants from suraj...from what you said, it seems she is doubting his love...I dont quite agree with that...

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Posted: 06 January 2014 at 12:44am | IP Logged
good comeback post shruthi
as you said sandy is now more confused
she herself said that if the same situation arised 2 yrs before she would have simply grabbed it

but now haalaath badhal gaye hain
she can neither stay away from suraj nor from her dream

poor lady on top of all 
bb and her pressure to win the trophyAngry

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Posted: 06 January 2014 at 12:44am | IP Logged
Sandhya's confusion seeing Bhabho's expressions and her behavior with the training officials is okay but how could the Bhabho question the officers about room allotment and talk about Sandhya having to wear jewels.  Is Bhabho so ignorant even after seeing Inspector Singh and listening to her speech.  It would have been good if these convos were between the Rathis and Suraj or Bhabhasa explaining it to her.
I like Agrima Singh's characterization.  She handled Bhabho well and she was not arrogant as Bhabho.

What I felt after this embarrassing scene was instead of bag loss drama, the Rathis could have sat and discussed about do's and don'ts during the training and how Sandhya is going to transform after the training.

It is going to be tough for Sandhya once she finishes the training. Also, I am not ready for another trophy competition in DABH.


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Posted: 06 January 2014 at 12:56am | IP Logged
Originally posted by b2011

Sandhya's confusion seeing Bhabho's expressions and her behavior with the training officials is okay but how could the Bhabho question the officers about room allotment and talk about Sandhya having to wear jewels.  Is Bhabho so ignorant even after seeing Inspector Singh and listening to her speech.  It would have been good if these convos were between the Rathis and Suraj or Bhabhasa explaining it to her.
I like Agrima Singh's characterization.  She handled Bhabho well and she was not arrogant as Bhabho.

What I felt after this embarrassing scene was instead of bag loss drama, the Rathis could have sat and discussed about do's and don'ts during the training and how Sandhya is going to transform after the training.

It is going to be tough for Sandhya once she finishes the training. Also, I am not ready for another trophy competition in DABH.



Well said bharathi! 

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Posted: 06 January 2014 at 12:57am | IP Logged
oh no another  competition track  in DABH...oh enough SleepySleepy

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Posted: 06 January 2014 at 1:12am | IP Logged
Nice post Shruthi
Sooraj has stood by her side and given all
the confidence needed, But Sandhya is still in
dilemma ...  the reasons you have correctly pointed
out.
May be when she comes out of the training she will
feel more confident and will learn how manage Baboo's
demands and her duty

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