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Posted: 26 May 2014 at 6:04am | IP Logged
I totally agree with you...I m a teenager...nd I use internet for information under my mama's supervision...she gave us permission to use internet...but she has also taught us merits nd demerits of using social networking...
she understand me vry well...wen evr I have a problem my mama z thr to solve for me...she z a friend to me who understands me nd make me understand...
She always knw wat I do on internet...
I knw we children feel bad wen dey tell smethng not to do...but if we children just think for 1min dat watevr dey said it was for our benefit...
We children say dat v knw evrythng but the fact is we knw evrythng inside the four walls of home...not the world...my mama always say wen u will entr professional life u will knw how is this world...
Evry child need a supervision of parents..nd I will say I m nothing without my parents...I dnt knw anythng if my parents dnt tell...
This world z dark with many wrong paths nd parents especially moms are the light who tells us nd make u follow right path...

Thanks vinita api and saima api for bringing dis topic...

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Posted: 26 May 2014 at 8:13am | IP Logged
I agree with u all... My parents always said to me and my sibilings that if we are not allowing u guyz to do something it means tht its for ur own benefit and we dont argue bcuz we know tht they are not wrong...
My parents are really strict in this mater and they even checks histories of our cell phones and laptops every week...
They knows what we are doing and when we are doing... But we dont mind bcuz its for our own benefit and they are slowly starting to trust us and its our responsibility to keep tht trust and not to break it...
I think ever child should have the supervision of parents.:-):-).

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Posted: 26 May 2014 at 8:18am | IP Logged
Thank you so much for joining in this discussion, it is so good to hear the views of parents and young ones alike. 


What is so good that you have shared you personal experiences, which goes to show how real and serious the issues related to social networking are.

As parent we can only educate our children and trust them to do the right thing as anything else in life.

My advice to our young girls is to be responsible, if there is an age limit for something it is for good reason. You are responsible for your own safety too. Never expose yourself and never let your guard down.

There always needs to be a balance in everything we do, it is good to open up the gates of free communication with your children, befriend them in a manner where they are able to come forward and discuss anything they wish to but it is also important to main the authoritative line that says I am still your parent and you are still my child.

I don't think anyone is truly ignorant of the dangers that loom but it's always a matter of 'it won't happen to me' attitude that sometimes causes problems. The reality is that anything can happen and will happen if you do not safeguard yourself. 

It would be unfair to say that everyone sitting on the other side of cyber space is a bad person, no. There are many many good people in the world who connect and come together through the virtual world, you as a responsible young person or adult just have to be a good judge of character.

As someone who works with vulnerable and often troubled children and young people the one thing I would say to parents other than to educate your children is to be vigilant. Changes in behaviour may seem minor and you may blame the stroppy teenage hormones but there is always a reason, no matter how small. Reach out to your children and families and ensure that you are always one step ahead.



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Posted: 26 May 2014 at 8:46am | IP Logged
Thanks sis saima to make such a good platform where we can talk what happened in day to day life. I agreed with u as a parents, we should take care of all these stuff. I myself not married yet but a elder brother to my siblings. I always kept an eye on them even sometime that irritates them but they never tell me. I turned on parental control on my all devices, even my uncle home devices as well as he doesn't know how to control it. He said me once & I protected it with password. But sometimes I felt that it is not enough as so many options available especially social network website where you used fake age & your id created.
The only thing as a parents, we can do is to teach our kids what is good for them & what is not. As we are not with them everytime, they should know that if they did something wrong, they will hurt their parents. That feeling stop them to doing wrong.
Thanks once again
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Originally posted by asifiqbalsh

Thanks sis saima to make such a good platform where we can talk what happened in day to day life. I agreed with u as a parents, we should take care of all these stuff. I myself not married yet but a elder brother to my siblings. I always kept an eye on them even sometime that irritates them but they never tell me. I turned on parental control on my all devices, even my uncle home devices as well as he doesn't know how to control it. He said me once & I protected it with password. But sometimes I felt that it is not enough as so many options available especially social network website where you used fake age & your id created.
The only thing as a parents, we can do is to teach our kids what is good for them & what is not. As we are not with them everytime, they should know that if they did something wrong, they will hurt their parents. That feeling stop them to doing wrong.
Thanks once again
Regards
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Hey Asif

Hope you are well, thank you for joining in. It's good to get a male perceptive on this too.

I agree that parental control on devices may not be enough, but at least it is a start.

With the world just a few clocks away it will always be difficult.

They may get irritated but in the long run it's for their own good something they will grow to realise

Best wishes 

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Posted: 26 May 2014 at 10:17am | IP Logged
Answer - Agree and must be done...

i personally witness it my young cousin .. using it
and i'm not sure parents aware off it...
and i did not like what i saw...

Must have parents control on this issue
to bring awareness...

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Posted: 26 May 2014 at 10:19am | IP Logged
Cyber Space -a bane or a boon!

Fantastic topic Vinita and Saima! It really is the need of the hour! Very interesting reading the thoughts of all you young Yummy Mummys!

We must always keep in mind that children come into this world because of us parents and so it is our duty to nurture and guide them to be complete human beings. The only time tested way is through COMMUNICATION. Never loose this most powerful tool for any relationship to prosper specially with children. The temptations are many so a constant dialogue is necessary. As a parent we cant always be physically present but if we develop a sense of responsibility and trust at an early age where the child is always able to talk openly with a parent nothing can go wrong.

A personal example...my son who is now 34 was in Grade 4 --he faked  an illness to bunk school as his two friends were doing the same! When it came to writing the leave application --all I told Ritwik was Child -You do not wish to go to school I accept but dont make me tell lies- the first lie is easy but each subsequent lie becomes more difficult whereas the first truth is difficult but thereafter it becomes easier and easier! and I must always be the first one to know what you are doing--good bad or ugly! My son to date travels wherever we are to inform us  of any new development -- like when he broke up with his first GF or when he began smoking--what ever. Whatever strictures or advice is given must be given in a friendly manner but never in front of his peers or teachers!
Another rule I have followed is never shelter the child from the other parent. Children are very perceptive and learn very early to play one against the other so it is essential to be ONE with them. This was difficult many a times--my son would tell me --why do you have to tell Baba everything? so I explained to him how necessary it is -- us giving a lecture or scolding or the outside world doing so ?

The same guideline applies to cyberspace: be open and keep an eye out for any change of behavior! Answer any question big or small truthfully as it is--children accept the truth even if they do not understand it but if you prevaricate or tell them shall tell you when you are older - you are opening a hornets nest! Their curiosity will get the better of them and they will try to find out by fair means or foul and then hide it from you. Peer pressure is terrible so you must guard against it. Children today have gizmos from an early age so the temptations are many!

You Young Yummy Mummys have an advantage over us because you are by and large techno savvy so use it to your advantage wisely and judiciously. At all times share with your children your thoughts and feelings so they learn at an early age to communicate their feelings and thoughts. Once this trust between Parents and Children is built--the kids will never go wrong!

Best of Luck!


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Posted: 26 May 2014 at 11:55am | IP Logged
The answer is ofcourse...parents need to check.
When I joined here and started to bond with others I was shocked to know that most of them were below 13 years!!!
And I was more shocked when I got to know that many readers read those mature stories were also under-aged. One of them told me that she could not understand the whole process but read them. Because it was there fascination.
It really shook me to the core.
So, I think parents need to check because there is perfect timing for everything. 
Thank you for this wonderful topic...

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