So many of you have shared your personal experiences, so i thought of doing mine too...it isn't anything about me, but about one of my cousins...
We are from a non conservative family, yet my sister chose to have an arranged marriage coz love didn't happen to her... But she got married to the person whom she knew since many years and was chosen by her parents...
They got married and had their best time in their 2 months long honeymoon in abroad...
They came back and my sister found out about her husband's affair when she was trying her best to get used to her new lifestyle...
She didn't act like a typical wife,instead, she chose to question him directly...
and he, like a 'satyapujari', agreed that he was having an affair...
it was just 2 and a half months to their marriage when my sister got that blow...
she found out that he was attracted to this girl since before their marriage, but it all kick started after they were back from honeymoon..
she decided to talk about it with her in laws... guess what they said: "aaj kal ke ladke aisa karte hai.. thoda adjust kar lo"
my sister is 'aaj kal ki ladki' too...but this type of cheating in marriages has nothing to do with 'aaj' or 'kal'... time might have changed, but the things on which marriages are based on didn't!!!
she still decided to go for a second chance..she didn't shout, didn't over react... she asked him to break all his ties with that woman..but he was not ready to do that...
so the option of second chance did not exist anymore..
she asked him to say the truth... she asked him if he could ever be faithful to their marriage.. he said he was faithful even now..he has no plans to leave my sister..but he can't leave that woman too...
in marriages speaking the truth is important...here, he did speak the truth...
she still had hope... she asked him if those 2 months had any importance to him or not.. he said they were the loveliest days of his life till now.. my sister had more hope then...she again went back to the second chance thing... but his answer did not change...
trust me, if he would have agreed to give this a change again, she would have happily forgiven him.. and it would be easier too as the newness in their marriage was her best weapon...
she called up her dad when her repetitive efforts were a constant failure..the jerk was ready for a divorce, as he claimed that it was for my sister's happiness...
she didn't say anything more.. and just left...
those two months were supposed to be the best days of her life too... she was already in love with him, and thought that he was too, which he never denied by the way...
she was mentally, emotionally and physically attached to him..and now she feels like she was nothing more than a commodity in his life...
where was her fault in all this?? her husband was honest to her but honesty didn't come into play when it was about their sacred bond... he did accept that he was cheating on her...but did that help her in any way?? may be yes.. she doesn't believe in marriages any more... she is the only child of her parents... and her parents feel extremely guilty for ruining her life, which i believe was not their fault...
so ya... sometimes infidelity in marriages can break your partner beyond repair...it's harmless if it is only attraction...
so why did he get married?? because of the dowry that he would get in the wedding?? No... there was no dowry thing.. we are strictly against it...
then why did he do this?? his answer is still the same: No Answer at all!!!!
bloody *beep beep* jerk!!
Edited by BeYourself - 9 years ago