This content was originally posted by: vinita459
Ha ha ha that's what I was thinking. The topic started with dual heritage but ended on MIL's π
Yes, love makes it worthwhile. But sometimes I just want to take all my frustration out π
This content was originally posted by: vinita459
Ha ha ha that's what I was thinking. The topic started with dual heritage but ended on MIL's π
Yes, love makes it worthwhile. But sometimes I just want to take all my frustration out π
This content was originally posted by: Divya.S.R
well they are kind of connected... our Indian cultures do show some importance to these things too..
When I was in India I used to stay with them only... I never knew I'll have such strong disliking towards my MIL after 2 months of my wedding...and worst I don't feel close enough to even say anything to her.. π€.. When I used to stay there.. She made me feel like a guest.. 'Don't touch this', 'I don't prefer doing things like', all crap like that.. π‘
Basically no freedom to do as I please in "my so called own house"..I feel better when I'm here... praying to god our extension of visa works out.. ππ
This content was originally posted by: -StarsLinedUp-
True dat Divya...I cant seem to get along with my MIL..even though she is nice to me and has ntohing bad going for her...n for sure love and inlaws are connected..its the expectations that come with being an Indian and living with ur inlaws no matter wat...chalo we agree upon it...but then...all they wanna do is strip us of our cultural upbringings and values..they want us to become them...so rather than accepting cultures u r shunning it...and the biggest culture of all this is the forced responsibility and set rules for esp girls..that...u are to be coy and comply all ur life...with no expectations of any returns...they allowed u to marry..now ur are indebted to them for lifeπ€’
See that's the difference between culture and heritage...heritage represents us as a united front in of the world..I am indian..Iam Indian American..Indo Canadian..etc etc..but culture...its more society based...and it evolves with every generation..I see it as a positive thing..merging cultures and heritages...the next generation will be a lot less pigeon holed...and will be more accepting of people from different walks of life...As of now..older generations..hide their flaws behind their culture and cultural beliefs...I am as such cos thats how the culture is..thats the excuse u get on many ocassions... Do this dont do this...this is not the right way...who cares...if u fly on thursday or not...π these cultural barriers are better left aside for the coming generations..let them make a new culture where they can be more open minded and easy going...in acceptance...and more cautious and smart in the decisions they make...This content was originally posted by: Divya.S.R
Mine just gives look of being nice.. My friend here in US met my MIL when I was over at Ohio(brothers place for his wedding prep) and asked me why I used to crib about her when she is such a pleasant soul.. but I had invited them(her and her husband) after returning from the wedding for dinner, That time she saw my MIL and the way interacts with me and realized what I used to say was the truth..My cousin brothers wives used to praise about my MIL to my mom saying they weren't as lucky as me.. My mom used to think what they would say if they realize how I was being treated..
This is what I hate about our culture.. the way everyone says only the girls should adjust with their in-laws and all that shit load of crap... π‘sorry about my language.. π
This content was originally posted by: -StarsLinedUp-See that's the difference between culture and heritage...heritage represents us as a united front in of the world..I am indian..Iam Indian American..Indo Canadian..etc etc..but culture...its more society based...and it evolves with every generation..I see it as a positive thing..merging cultures and heritages...the next generation will be a lot less pigeon holed...and will be more accepting of people from different walks of life...As of now..older generations..hide their flaws behind their culture and cultural beliefs...I am as such cos thats how the culture is..thats the excuse u get on many ocassions... Do this dont do this...this is not the right way...who cares...if u fly on thursday or not...π these cultural barriers are better left aside for the coming generations..let them make a new culture where they can be more open minded and easy going...in acceptance...and more cautious and smart in the decisions they make...
This content was originally posted by: -StarsLinedUp-
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See that's the difference between culture and heritage...heritage represents us as a united front in of the world..I am indian..Iam Indian American..Indo Canadian..etc etc..but culture...its more society based...and it evolves with every generation..I see it as a positive thing..merging cultures and heritages...the next generation will be a lot less pigeon holed...and will be more accepting of people from different walks of life...As of now..older generations..hide their flaws behind their culture and cultural beliefs...I am as such cos thats how the culture is..thats the excuse u get on many ocassions... Do this dont do this...this is not the right way...who cares...if u fly on thursday or not...πthese cultural barriers are better left aside for the coming generations..let them make a new culture where they can be more open minded and easy going...in acceptance...and more cautious and smart in the decisions they make...
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This content was originally posted by: vinita459
Okay now that we are taking out frustration...let me tell you an incident that happened with me after marriage π.
I always tie a red thread on my wrist. You know the religious one..
After our marriage my MIL asked me to remove it. In fact she tried to remove it herself.
I told her and my hubby...I am not removing it...no matter what. My husband supported me ...she finally backed off. But so much tension was created... I wanted to cry. She accused me of stealing her son. And I will learn my lesson when my own son will growl up and do this to me.
Trust me...I was like ...what have I got my self into.:(
These are only few examples :(
This content was originally posted by: vinita459
Okay now that we are taking out frustration...let me tell you an incident that happened with me after marriage π.
I always tie a red thread on my wrist. You know the religious one..
After our marriage my MIL asked me to remove it. In fact she tried to remove it herself.
I told her and my hubby...I am not removing it...no matter what. My husband supported me ...she finally backed off. But so much tension was created... I wanted to cry. She accused me of stealing her son. And I will learn my lesson when my own son will growl up and do this to me.
Trust me...I was like ...what have I got my self into.:(
These are only few examples :(
This content was originally posted by: vinita459
Okay now that we are taking out frustration...let me tell you an incident that happened with me after marriage π.
I always tie a red thread on my wrist. You know the religious one..
After our marriage my MIL asked me to remove it. In fact she tried to remove it herself.
I told her and my hubby...I am not removing it...no matter what. My husband supported me ...she finally backed off. But so much tension was created... I wanted to cry. She accused me of stealing her son. And I will learn my lesson when my own son will growl up and do this to me.
Trust me...I was like ...what have I got my self into.:(
These are only few examples :(
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