Originally posted by: IssPKaur
Hello! Just read this...i love the man but cannot agree. Abuse is abuse. He probably hurled verbal much more than physical...but still. A lot of women i know who go through abuse try and justify it to themselves for the longest time citing the fact that the man at heart is a good one. It's classic victim behavior...till it hits the wall... We value ASR, of course we do, we know who he really is, and love him for that. But sometimes i felt the character was in the wrong...especially pre guest house...and post forced marriage. It doesn't matter that he was doing it ONLY to her. Most men do it only to their wives or girlfriends. They seem perfectly nice to all other women.
I for one do not think Khushi's anger during resignation was extreme. All that talk of "aukaat" for instance, i found unacceptable to say the least. I was mighty pleased actually that she felt the anger and expressed it. So glad they didn't make her apologize to him for it later...
This chat is an essential one. Glad we''re having it! Big hug to you all, by the way. Missing you like crazy!
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No matter how much I loved IPK and ASR as an mature audience, I worried about the impact of manhandling scenes on young minds. I would assume sensitive young teens not approving it and fear immature older teens being mislead by it.
In general, no matter how much couples are in love with each other and understand each other, even the tiniest unintentional arguments or verbal abuse can affect the relationship when it comes to physical intimacy for women. The issues need to be resolved and partner's mutual respect need to be restored on regular basis for healthy sustenance of long term relationship.In spite of the inconsistent story, I would like to make sense of what was offered to us. Post kidnap rescue, maybe a verbal admittance of their love by ASR was necessary for K to start afresh, instill confidence and erase the hurtful memories. Maybe she would not have left RM for Anji's sake then. She had forgiven him long back, they had accepted each other and she even physically seemed to be ready for intimacy.There is some gradual psychological resolution for K to farm house night if I want to make sense. She gets the answer in his teary eyes when he says, "tum ye sab hone dogi", then symbolic gifting on rakhee day, I love you dammit, apology at GH followed by visit to ma's garden and finally acknowledging her parents at farmhouse. In summary regardless of how much couples are in love, unlike men for women, their underlying psychological state is as important as their physical need or even more for attainment of desired level of intimacy.I find answers to many questions in La's, "tum hi ho ek jo ASr se wo kah sakti ho jo wo nahi sunna chahte". Yes she was always drawn to him, did not want to give up on the raakshas inside him. Her love made her poke, prick, ruffle and dig into A's facades. His love for her compelled him to invite her to his inner chambers. Every time he hurt her, a piece of him cried for her love. And she would not miss to notice the tiny teary pools in his eyes that reflected his generous love for her as infinite as the ocean.Yes there was no short cut for the broken soul ASR and this resulted in the great fiction we all love.We are having such varied topics for discussion in all directions and I love all point of views for the joy of reading, communication and understanding.
ps: Time for Teej on TV reruns. As alwasy apologies for taqneeqi kharabein.
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