OK here are the questions from my end ;)
- First thing first, I heard you are from UK, from London or elsewhere ? Currently I am in London. I have seen near by countries but not UK per se 😆 So let me know what are the places you recommend that are worth exploring in UK and why ?
Honestly I was born and raised in Sweden and have only been living in UK for the past 5 years. Sadly I haven't seen much outside London so can't recomend anything.
- Who do you enjoy reading on DM and why ?
RTH because she proves her points very eloquently. Others are LeadNitrate, H4L, krystal_watz, Woh_Ajnabee, charminggenie because of the way they write. I enjoy their writing style and how they express themselves.
- Which topics do you enjoy on the forum ?
Those who don't need too much thinking which are most of the topics hence my non-existing participation in the debates. 😆
- Which Fangroup do you find most annoying ? Details please.
Generally fans of any male actors but the most annoying fangroup is definitely Gurmeet Choudhry one. 🤢
- Which person on DM really gets on your nerve 😉
Currently lonelyOplanet.
- Have you ever felt attracted to an IF ID because of his or her writing ? If yes, again details, details 😆
Oh you just want juicy details don't you? 😆 Sorry I have nothing to share. 😛
- Why are humans such shallow species ?
Because mankind is attracted to beauty and what is aesthetically pleasing to our eyes we choose that. We are all bunch of lazy bums because beautifully things don't require too much of thinking and gives instant pleasure.
Ok, I have no idea what I just said. 😳 It sounded so good in my head but came out completely wrong.
- What is religion for you ?
A safety net that is always there no matter what happens. Good times, bad times I always have something that I can turn to.
- Do you believe in Evolution ? Why or Why not ?
Of course I believe in Evouloution. Why wouldn't I? How else can dinosaures be explained? Or that humans and chimpanzees share 97% DNA (if I'm not completely wrong)? It's fascinating how everything has developed from one tiny little cell.
- What kinda guy would you choose out of the below categories. Why and how would you tame him down 😎
- Emotional Wreck but Highly educated Oye, I'm an emotional wreck too. Don't need another one like me. Imagine the cost for going to psychiatrist.
- Immature but caring Sounds pretty alright to me. At least I won't have someone nagging me to grow up.
- Sophisticated but momma's boy My worst nightmare. Blech! 🤢
- Drool worthy but shallow I rather buy a nice framed painting which I can stare at all day long.
- Geek but no time for his lady (<-- Pick this, pick this, Geeks are GreekGod 😆) I love geeks but an ignorant one? Hmmm...
After carefully evaluating and analysing potential candidates (ha ha joking!) I will choose Immature but caring because all my life no man has really cared for me and for once I would like to have someone who would take care of me. For his immaturity I'll just have to use the whip. 😉
- If you were to go an on Adventure where you are taken blind folded and dropped at some corner of the world, which country would you like it to be ?
Ghana because I find West Africa very fascinating.
- Were you a tomboy or girly girl or in between while growing up ?
Tomboy! I used to play with boys, watch Transformers cartoons on TV, and dress out like a tough warrior woman rather than girly princess. I'm still very much a tomboy even today.
- Your first crush, how, where, when and everything 😉 (Talking about real life boy, not some TV, Bolly or Holly actor 🤢)
No worries about mentioning any actor because I didn't start having severe crushes on actors until I turned 30 a few years ago. I always thought it was ridiculous behaviour so wouldn't allow myself to go gaga over celebrities. But something happened at the age of 30 which I can't explain.
Anyway I mentioned a guy in a previous post and he was my first crush at the age of 13. I don't know what but I thought he was so cute and he was intelligent. He's was one of those goodlooking straight A student. I remember during our German lessons we were paired up. Oh God I thought I was going to die! We didn't go in the same class but we were in the same year group and had few lessons together so imagine my luck. He he he! But I had such difficulties concentrating during the lessons. Maybe that's why my German still sucks even today. 😆 For 3 years I had the biggest crush on him but being Muslim I never did approach him in any way. Although I did try to found out as much as possible about him, especially when he finished school because I used to pass by his street while walking home and occasionally I managed to walk home at the same time as him but I was always a few meters behind. Oh boy your questioned reminded me about things I had completely forgotton about.
- Kids and their upbringing scare me at times. The reason why I feel I am not a parent material. How hard is parenting ? And convince me that having kids is a bliss.
There's no way I can convince you about having a kid is a bliss, because I don't think it is despite being a parent myself. If you're looking for bliss then look somewhere else. 😆
Seriously parenting is so so so hard, it was even harder for me as I never liked kids before having one. Yes it's true! If I saw a kid I used to run for my life. Then why did I have a kid? Well it was more of my ex-husband's wish than mine so I was slightly pressured into parenthood. Do I regret it? No! My daughter is my whole world and I love her to bits but parenting is difficult. As much as I love my child I constantly walk around with guilt for not giving her enough time and love, for not being fair enough, for yelling too much, for not teaching her good enough manners and so on. There are no books who can guide you because every child works differently. What works for one won't work for anoter. It's like being put in a plane and being asked to fly it without any training. Scary as hell!
- Would you get re-married ? And what is your take on re-marriage when it comes to our desi culture especially after having a kid of your own. (You can skip it if you think it's personal)
I've already been remarried and that too having a kid from my first marriage. If I get married again it will be a third time and that's not happening. Two bad experiences and I've had it!
When it comes to remarriage I've always been surrounded by people who think it's a good thing maybe because in their eyes a women can't survive on her own especially if the women still lives in small villages. But the situation in the West is slightly different where women can survive on her own. I think, if the woman is ready, she should get married again despite having a kid. Not because she needs to be taken care of rather because she deserves happiness and if other people can't accept it then screw them! Problems might arise if the child doesn't accept the new man so the man has to be very mature, understanding and have lots of patience.
Alrightie, that's it for now. Will hit ya up later once you are done with this set of questions. Congrats for getting grilled nicely
Yeah I can smell something burning now after all your questions. 😆
Note: I am assuming with regards to fairy tales, you mean the Disney princesses kinda tales.
I had to add one more question/comment for you after reading this. Yes in general, fairy tales might not reflect the harsh reality. But I am sure there can be loads to learn from these tales for young blossoming minds.
Mulan is one of my favorites movies and I am sure it goes against everything you just mentioned. If I ever have a daughter, I am sure more than her, I'll be watching this movie 😆😆 So tell me, do you still have the same concrete take on fairy-tales ?
Mulan is an exception and she's also my favourite together with Pochahontas. I was speaking generally about fairy tales but of course there are exceptions. My aversion for Disney fairy tales are more because I used to watch Pippi Longstocking (the film and not the cartoon version) and Pippi was a naughty, strong, independent kind of girl. I can not thank the late Astrid Lindgren for coming up with such a great character who influented my young mind. Actually all of Astrid's characters were different from the typical fairy tale, especially the girls like Pippi Longstocking and Ronja Robbersdaughter.
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