A lot of discussion happened and was very interesting. Lot of past events were discussed. Here is my take on some of the comments.
Kumud strongly believes in marital bond. And it is her self respect and her dad's honor in question too. She can't accept saras so easily anyways.
There was a mention about kumud helping Saras for dugbaa. Kumud didn't help Saras for Dugbaa. Sunny showed her the mirror when he said he thought there was an other reason.
Even on Thursday she says to dugbaa that saras Ne dubaara dhokha diya. That was very insensitive. This statement has been used repeatedly. Even kusum used it in front of her parents n sunny. After knowing all they had to know about why he said no the first time, they still call it a dhokha. It was a mistake to write a letter and not tell VC. But dhokha? This is a typical fall back trait though. When there is anger on someone, people tend to build it up by adding few more issues that might not be mistakes. To make their case stronger. Kumud said this after she knows all she had to from saras and after she says she got all the answers in front of durga ma. It remains a dhokha. But calling it double dhokha? I wish saras heard it.
VC said "Duniya ke sare rishte ek taraf aur kumud ek Taraf". I know very well how family background is important when choosing an alliance especially in rural India. But this is not early 20th century when the novel was set. After saras's phone call, VC should be more cautious. People become very suspicious of everything in such situation. So when all their efforts failed with that call, they become wary. A thought on why pramaad is accepting this alliance, a thought on why bds are so desperate to have this alliance even at this point would have gone a long way. Waise BDs have lot of social standing. When they get a bahu whose alliance just fell apart, their social resoect/standing takes a lot of beating in the same rural set up. It doesn't work only one way.
VC doesn't need to know all market rumors to act. Alcoholism is enough to get him to check further. But he kept quiet. Hoping for the best. And if alcoholism is not a clinching factor, why was he crying like crazy as if everything is doomed. The way he cried was as if he knew all about pramaad n not just his alcoholism. Kumud's response was great. She said he still has right to make decisions for her. That's the respect for her father. I liked that statement very much. After all they were and are her support system.
She never considered saras as part of her support system. Though he did a lot to gain their confidence like saving Kumar from marrying etc. Always confided the smallest thing with kusum. When saras tried to become her support system, that's one reason why she resisted.
Saras should stay out of this, but he didn't. He irritated her, warned her and what not. Kumud must have had a very hard time with this. But after each encounter with saras post marriage she came out stronger, more determined and more clear. Be it dealing with DV or her marriage itself.
Saras taking that wow was very symbolic. Earlier, he was doing it with some feelings for her. Now he considers it a sacred mission to save her marriage. And for any such mission he needs to cleanse himself. The shloka 'apavitrah pavitro vaa' is chanted to cleanse inside and outside. He did that so that he will help her without having any feelings of chaahat or love.
Edited by pasumarthisa - 10 years ago
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