They keep comparing everyone with Anandi. At a point even Gehna had become irritated that Anandi was getting more precedence than her even in matters related to upbringing of her own son Nandu.
Singhs always wanted Anandi around and weren't able to get over her. Even if you give them a woman who is shadow of Anandi, they will not praise her for what she is, but rather use the phrase "ekdum Anandi jaisi"!
Wouldn't that make any woman feel slighted and irritated?
And doesn't it keep scratching Jagya's wounds also as his ex wife's name is always taken around him?
Singhs rather fuelled his feelings of past attachment and later regret regarding Anandi.
How will he move on then?
Sanchi gets irked when Singhs or Shekhars tell her to be like Anandi. Or give Anandi priority over her. For a while let's put her faults aside and think, from POV of a normal woman. Which woman would like to see comparisons or priority to another woman who was ex wife/ex DIL of her husband/husband to be/in laws?
Sanchi has no past history with Singhs. But Gauri had. It was evident she'd get irritated for not even getting a chance and for being compared to Anandi.
Ganga has been rescued and rehabilitated by Jagya and Anandi. She is poor, has no shelter, no safety and had little education earlier. So she keeps serving everyone, keeps tolerating everything (I am refering to Sumi's barbs) and is herself partly grateful and partly in awe of Anandi so she doesn't mind being compared to her or herself taking help from her and being her shadow or following her footsteps.
But any woman would need her own unique respect and status as a wife and DIL. At some point it would hurt her self respect if her family is all lattoo and worship mode for ex DIL and she too is expected to do the same or keep quiet.
Stuff like rich, no past baggage, virgin etc. are just surface level criteria for choosing a new life partner for Jagya. Mainly what most Singhs (and Jagya) want is that a girl should be a clone of Anandi. (They've agreed for Sanchi also only due to pressure of her being from Anandi's sasural! They don't find her DIL material actually!)
If Anandi remains a priority, a model that a prospective DIL & J's wife must follow then how the hell is Jagya ever going to start afresh, on a clean slate? How is he expected to have a happy family life? How will a woman be respected, happy and live with dignity and self respect with a place of her own in Singh household?
Ganga does not object when DS goes "Ekdum Anandi jaisi" but isn't that undermining her own unique identity?
Even Jagya's condition that Anandi would choose a bride for him or Singhs thinking of Anandi's opinion before deciding on a life partner for Jagya are not a way to start afresh for Jagya!
If Singhs could choose the right groom for Anandi, then why not right bride for Jagya? Why Anandi has to be inserted and consulted in all matters?
Families have problems balancing even between biological daughter and DIL as is evident in Shekhars' case. How can anyone expect there'd never be any problem "balancing" between ex-wife (taken as "daughter" but not even mooh boli sister of Jagya!) and present wife in their family and household matters?
Even if any woman in Jagya's life is not made a vamp like Gauri or Sanchi, still from reality POV, it is difficult for any woman to fit in Singh family with her self respect and without feeling insecure or slighted.
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