Originally posted by IPK007
Thanks dear for taking an interest in TBWD and for your long , detailed and heartfelt comment. I understand your feelings about the current track in the story :) Thanks for being so emotionally invested in this story. The scene where he goes to the tawaif house to indulge in his most basic desires was disturbing no doubt but very much a reality of those days. Those were the days when there was no dating, open relationships with people of the opp sex were frowned upon and men like Arnab who were married to 13-14 year olds had three choices..First.. to just force their wives to grow up..by having intercourse with them(commonest scenario...almost all of our great grandmoms were probabaly married off at this age and had kids soon after). Second, wait for their wives to grow up but succumb to their desires by visiting these places (second commonest scenario...which would have been the case in this story too, if Arnab hadn't discoved the age of the person he was about to have sex with)... Or the third scenario, which my idealistic mind (and yours) wishes had happened all the time...Arnab curbing his desires and waiting for his wife to grow up a little..
[DIV]In this story...Arnab will fall somewherein the category between 2. and 3...because like I had always maintained that he wasn't a typical young man of his times. But he wasn't perfect either..:) He succumbed to temptation but wasn't at peace with his decision.. and when he was saved just in time..(from being unfaithful to Khushi), he was relieved. This relief is what makes him different from his contemporaries..:)
Hope this helped...:)
thanks a lot for ur reply😊
ab mein kya bolu!!!😳
i know this was common back then. i even read a novel whr a 25 year old man marries a 10 year old girl...its really hard to digest😕 n about the tawaif part...being a bengali book read i m quite familier wid these things. but they never cease to amaze me. i hav read books whr there r men of all those 3 catagories. first 2 catagories alys terrify me n abt the last one they r far better than many men of these days n those days😕
plzzz dont thank u me...ek bada wala THANK YOU...for u 😳
u replied me...now m mast😃
my own grandmother got married at 15...my grandfather was 28! my dad was born whn she was 18.
lol...my granny teases me that nobody ll marry me as i hav crossed the age!! who wants to marry a buddhi!!😳