Arshi,
Lovely CB, will catch up and try to assimilate all the CB discussion of the week over the weekend.
It was an utter confusing week, trying to fit in various theories proposed here. I expected all the answers to be provided, in SC style. Wish was granted today to an extent.
Still the queries remain about morality and principles.
As me being someone who professionally comes across domestic violence and trained to be sensitive and supportive..i am still trying not to be judgmental on Kumud's actions. Death statements are given to hide abuse, in the real world out there, Right or wrong, we learn along in life, respecting someone for their decision.
No decision is right or wrong as long as it concurred to her morals and principles. Ethics has large grey areas though to debate.
Experienced people who I 've come across, who deal and help the people with these on day to day basis are totally non judgemental about these issues.
CV's were kind enough to spell it out from Kumud's side today, what her terms and conditions were. More happy she spelt out that she knew what was wrong. That would be the first step, she will fight her battles.
Sorry to barge in a reply to various degrees of tempers flying here, Arshi.. In no way, we can prevent these things in the world, can only build a support structure and awareness around it.
Physical emotional abuse is not confined to any ethnicity, gender, culture, strata of the society. The same is true elsewhere in the world. Not an exclusive Indian women's problem. Asking why she is not walking out will not address the issue. She has to figure it out. She has to set a line for herself.
Morality of in laws hiding things before marriage. Not right though. May be CV's will provide some answers for that.
Self harm, large red flags for suicide intentions. Dear, CV's stop it please.
Alpha is Kumud's dominant personality, Hgg's theory is working out.
Explaining renunciation, in literature many psychological theories are put forth to explain. I cannot fully comprehend.. Will make time in life to learn about it. Thanks to Smrth.
I cannot explain why rishta nibhana(without pyaar) takes a precedence and priority over pyaar nibhana in Kumud's world. But i guess it is the core dilemma in the story.
. Lovely to see everyone's post. Lovely to enjoy new terminologies, I'm learning here.