for all delena fans. (stelena fans too)

Okay so now I have read a lot about how everyone wants delena to work out and are calling Stefan selfish. Since I have read so many delena fans opinion so I would appreciate it if all of you read my entire opinion. I am not criticizing any of the characters just placing my observation so please be patient and don't bash me even if you happen to not like some part of it. You can tell me about it in comments but no foul language.

Okay so here it goes.

Point 1:

Somehow everyone seems to think that Damon is Elena's true love. And that now suddenly she loves him because she had always loved him all along. And that it has nothing to do with the sire bond.

My opinion;

Okay now let's see.

1^st of all let's get the story of TVD straight and in brief.

Elena meets Stefan. Stefan is the one who saved her life and is 1^st interested in her because she looks like Katherine. They fall in love. Now comes Damon. Interested in Elena but in love with Katherine. Later he finds out that Katherine couldn't care less about him so he gets over her and in the process falls for Elena. But then Elena starts caring for him. Then Stefan leaves town and goes with Klaus and so Elena falls for Damon. Then she has to make a choice and chooses Stefan. But then she dies and wakes up as a vampire. Breaks up with Stefan and gets into a relationship with Damon. But then we come to know that she is sired to Damon.

Now tell me all along she has loved Stefan more then she loved Damon but suddenly how can she be so much in love with Damon that she is ready to give up Stefan completely? Does it even make sense?

So now if you think that Damon is Elena's true love then why did she choose to go to Stefan in the last episode of season 3? I mean no matter how grateful you are to someone you can never choose that person over someone you love the most in their last moments. So she wanted to say goodbye to Stefan in person and she gave up the chance to do the same with Damon. Doesn't that clearly point out her favoured preference among the Salvatore brothers?

And now please don't say that she chose Stefan because she was human as we all know that becoming a vampire just heightens ones feelings. So if you say that her love for Damon was heighten than her love for Stefan should also increase. In fact since she loved Stefan more she should still love Stefan more. But right now it rather seems like she almost only loves Damon so how can it be anything other than sire bond. I mean having sex with him just after the break up with Stefan?

Now of course it can be argued that Elena from the beginning had stronger feelings for Damon and she chose Stefan because she thought she had met him first or that because he saved her. Okay true Elena didn't remember meeting Damon 1^st but how does that make anything different. She had not even remembered her and Stefan's first meeting when Stefan saved her which has a much larger impact then her and Damon's first meeting. And now don't say that she met him 1^st so she loves him more. Come on her love can't be so cheap that it is distributed on 1^st come 1^st serve basis. If so then both Damon and Stefan should go find someone else. Stefan got Elena because he is good. Just because Damon does something good it doesn't make him a better person then Stefan. I mean I love Damon but think about it. If Damon was near Wicker Bridge that day and like Stefan he did not know that Elena who looks like Katherine is in the car under water unlike Stefan Damon wouldn't have jumped into the water to save a human life. That one good thought that one good deed was returned to Stefan in form of Elena's love.

Point 2

Damon being a better brother compared to Stefan.

Now this I cannot understand. I mean I personally find it extremely hard to choose who is a better brother among the Salvatore's. And just a few times I am inclined to Stefan. Stefan gave up his humanity his freedom and Elena and went with Klaus in exchange for Damon's life. Again when he was in his darkest form and nothing could switch on his humanity he let the chance to his freedom and a perfect opportunity to kill Klaus go and saved Klaus' life again to save Damon. Damon killed his best friend and was literally doing everything in his power to make Stefan's life miserable but Stefan put up with it and even forgave Damon for it. Yes even Damon has gone through great lengths for Stefan but is it enough to call him a better brother?

And of course many think that had Damon been in the same situation as Stefan he would have done the same things and given up Elena when she genuinely loves him and his freedom may be you are right. But the chances of this are low. Damon gave up on Stefan when he turned to a ripper but Elena didn't. And then Stefan saved him from one of the hybrids and then Damon realizes that he shouldn't give up on Stefan because Stefan would never give up on him. But still all this while and even later when Stefan comes back Damon still tries to win Elena "fair and square". And his happiness is when he kisses Elena is greater than his guilt that he kissed his brother's girlfriend who by the way happens to have just given up a lifetime opportunity to kill Klaus to save his life.

About Stefan asking Damon give Elena back if you think that it is unfair and selfish. Well hasn't Damon trying to win Elena from the beginning from Stefan? Is that justified? Now she has feelings for Damon but why?

Point 3

Stefan doesn't love Elena now that she is a vampire.

That's not true. Stefan doesn't like being a vampire. He sees himself as a monster so he is hurt that now the one he loves will also have to suffer the way he did. Whereas Damon loves being a vampire as he is strong. So he doesn't mind that Elena is a vampire. As for Damon saving matt 1^st it doesn't mean that he doesn't love Elena enough. True Damon would have not listened to Elena and saved her 1^st but then what? Damon would have done that on impulse the way he fed her his blood before Klaus killed her. Stefan on the other hand understands her and knows what kind of guilt she would go through if matt had died when he could be saved for her. When Bonnie's mom had been turned to save Elena's life he had seen the guilt she went through. This doesn't prove that Damon loves her more it just means that Stefan thinks more than Damon.

Well don't get me wrong. As I said before I love Damon. I love his impulsive behaviour, the way he loves his taunts everything but it's just that somewhere we are being unfair to Stefan's character. Poor guy. Think after the way he reacted to Elena kissing Damon what he will go through about them having sex. And he is always so fair. He even sent Damon and Elena together to get Jeremy so that Elena would figure out her feelings for him and was ready to let go of her if she chose Damon.

And personally I don't like Elena now. I mean she is a good character but the thing is I always feel that she makes demons life duller. I mean she makes him a better person but she makes him more what's the word, not fun may be. She is good and that's why she would always be with Stefan. Like I said no matter what we want it's always going to be Stefan. And now I kind of want her to not be with Damon because I want Damon to have something different and someone better. I mean someone opposite to him the way Klaus found Caroline.  Means the moment I saw klaroline I was like damn wish Damon would find someone like that. Elena and Damon clash because of their values and beliefs. She has strong values he doesn't have any. So it makes for an interesting love but eventually everyone wants a stable relationship. To be sure of what your partner thinks so that's the reason Elena will always eventually choose Stefan because she has enough unpredictable happening in other aspects of her life to be emotionally on the andreline rush.

In fact I want Damon to have a girl who is the best probably a witch because he doesn't seem to like them much who will entirely love him and not always be so confused about who she wants to be with. It will for her always be Damon. Someone really beautiful, blond who can be at par with his handsomeness. Someone as strong as him who he can consider his equal and respect her decisions rather than laugh at them.

Someone naughty and cool like Katherine and Rebekah, full of light and joy like Caroline, good and understanding like lexi and rose, always helpful like bonnie, trusting like Jenna. Bubbly and funny who can fill his life with laughter who he can tease and have fun with and laugh genuinely and wholeheartedly. Seriously he deserves that much after all the darkness he has seen and suffered. I just want him to have someone awesome and of course for him to fall for her. No use if there is nothing on his side. Because he has a tendency of loving girls for a really…really…really long time. 145 years for Katherine well that speaks for itself.

On the lighter note though Well if this continues I don't know about some vampire, werewolf, ghost or hybrid killing Elena but eventually she will surely die of a heart attack after she becomes a human again which of course she will be because it seems that everyone in mystic falls has the full time job of saving her and if she doesn't become a human again how will everyone go back to saving her.😉

I hope I have not hurt anyone's sentiment. If I have I am sorry. I didn't mean to I was just expressing my view. If anyone has to add anything or contradict something I said please do so in the comments below but no angry language. If by chance after reading this you are angry then don't comment now but after sometime when you cool down.

Originally posted by: iMadz

OMG! First of all, you surely deserve a clap 👏 for typing this much. 😛 I don't know which ship you are sailing. BUT, I will be direct.


1. Damon and Elena - Their relationship is not the one when boy see girl. Boy is handsome. Girl is pretty and now...Yay! Let's fall in love coz you are the coolest boy in the college. And the way you said entire story about Delena, I feel like you only knew this like if you have read their story on Wiki. Their story started from hate, from extreme hatred to caring, from caring to friendship and from friendship to love. They literally hated each other. And then they started caring for each other. They became friends. They have deep level of understanding. They have seen each other's dark side first. And then there were feelings involved. It was not something initiated 'At First Sight' It was a development, like making wall by each brick, one by one. It was not 'I-Fell-Instantly-for-him' It was a journey. And they were always together whether love was there between them or not. Damon and Elena - Its not the self proclamation of 'I-Love-Yous' everyday and being EPIC everyday, it was in look. It was in gestures, it was in those little moments they shared. Beauty of their relation is in silent promises, vows to take care of each other. Another thing. Elena herself admitted that she had feelings for him. And you know one thing, Damon and Elena were mostly best friends in season 3. And BE IT WHATEVER, but if I have a boyfriend, then I would never kiss my best friend unless I have strong feeling for him. And not just sympathy kiss, or friendly kiss or caring type of kiss but a fire brand, passionate and romantic the one whom you should give it to your boyfriend before ending in his bed. 😆 She kissed him out of those suppressed feelings, on her own, if I may add.


So. Damon and Elena. Not few days flick, they were in for long run, and they were in developing, they were growing, they were being with each, even without knowing the feeling they had for each other. Elena loved Damon, its entirely different thing that she never accepted that and hid it in 'I-Care-For-You' speech. And I think, Elena chose Stefan for mainly two reasons. 1. Safety. 2. Loyalty. Elena is extremely and annoyingly loyal person, she stuck with Stefan in season 3 even though he did not wanted her to. He did not even fought for her, he gave up and Elena had to fight. So her choosing Stefan in finale was safe and loyal thing. Yep, there was love too. Coz, Elena's first love is Stefan. The one everyone has in college. Elena cried a river for letting Damon go. Why? She chose Stefan. She would have been happy. If she was so much in love when why even call Damon? There was something. I beg to differ. And at this stage, I think Delena can have stable relationship, too. I mean Damon has literally changed a lot. He was always a better man, Elena just broke his wall, coz of all his hurt and rejection he always got. And you think SE will have stable relationship. Stefan becomes Ripper every thirty years or so. Be it with Elena or alone. So, even if SE stays together, somewhere down the line, Stefan will spend 30 or more years being Ripper while Elena will wait at home. 😆 And after 4X06, I think SE will never be together again. Coz, they lack an understanding. (My view, I am not forcing anyone to believe it. I am just saying it)


Forgive me, if you don't agree. BUT. I am the one DE Shipper who has loved Delena and believed in Delena from the moment they met. From that gentleman kiss on the back of her palm. I believe in Delena deeply. And after 3 long seasons, after amazing relation from hate to care, care to friendship and friendship to an understanding and that understanding to LOVE, I got Delena. So, no matter what. I will never stop believing in them. And I do feel that their love is REAL, whether 'EPIC' or not but they have something very REAL and DEEP.


2. I have always believed that Damon is better than Stefan. Not coz they save each other lives and all. Individually talking. Damon is a better person, of course, if you care to look at his inner side, and not just his acts. My problem with Stefan is not that he is a bad guy. He is. And Everyone is. Damon and Stefan are no good persons. Both have their fair share of doing bad things in life. BUT. Damon is honest. While Stefan is one who is hypocrite. He keeps thinking that he is GOOD for Elena. Who says that?  I hate that when he can look into Damon's eye and tell him that how he is the bad guy and how he is wrong for Elena. Fine. Its his hypocrisy all the time that piss me off. And have you noticed something from all seasons? Stefan always choose to fight for Elena when he has to fight with Damon for her, or someone kidnaps Elena. Otherwise, he is always ready with the master plan called 'I-Respect-Your-Choice-Elena' I agree with a huge heart that Stefan has saved Damon's life. And I am so grateful for that. He gave everything to Klaus to save his brother. I liked that very much and I respected him. BUT. After they found him, everything was fine, and he went into 'Taking Revenge With Klaus' mode and did everything wrong. Trying to kill Elena on the bridge? Really? So much for the 'EPIC' love. And Damon had saved Stefan's life so many times. Don't tell me that you don't know that unless you have not paid attention to. In season 1 only when he claimed that he was there for destroying his life, he saved Stefan when tomb vampires kidnapped him. He could have easily choose not to save him at all. He saved his life from Klaus at the dinner. He could have let them burnt his hand and then his entire body, who cared? Stefan was being a jerk at that time, too. BUT he saved him. You know there is not question about Defan being there for each other. Their brother bonding is really very strong. And even I like Stef when he is with Damon to kill common enemies. Defan is never a question. It should even be a question to debate. The question should be based on Individual personality of the brothers and not on the brotherhood. Defan is the base of the show. It is too strong for us to doubt. They will fight like dogs but at the end of the day, they will save each other. No Stefan is great saving Damon. Or Damon is great saving Stefan. Its EQUAL.


And how can you miss the biggest of them all? Damon saved Stefan from himself. Watch 3X16 and how he saved Stefan, get him back on the track. It was not Elena or Stelena's 'EPIC' love who brought him back, it was Damon and their brotherhood which brought him back. Watch the last scene. The most amazing and probably the BEST Defan scene EVER!


3. Well. Stefan does not love Elena as vampire. That's true. Stefan does love Elena, I agree. But he said, he can't watch her like that and she did not have to have this life. Well, that's beyond my understanding. If you are so guilty and all? Then you should have not listened to her in the river when she was dying. You could have dropped your master plan called 'I-Respect-Your-Choices-Elena' for a while. BUT. Main reason is that, Elena is Stefan's humanity. He wanted to save his humanity by Elena. We all know Stefan spends thirty years On/Off being Ripper and switching his humanity. He needs Elena as his humanity. Coz vampire Elena is a bad ass Elena, exact opposite to Stefan which is fun. Stefan and Fun, do not go together at all. 😆 So he wants to save his humanity along with Elena's. This is my view, if you don't agree, FINE. Who cares now? We have Delena. I least care about Stefan now.


Oh. And Yes. Damon with another girl. Well, Bonnie. A BIG NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. Bonnie hates him. If Elena was not Bonnie's friend, Bonnie would have killed Damon at the first chance she got. Bonnie can kill Damon with cold heart and not think twice about it. No way in hell, Bonnie and Damon. Gross. And besides, Damon is too charming for Bonnie.(Personally, I don't like Bonnie. She is the queen of land called, 'Judgmental Planet' 😆) Rose was fine. But she is DEAD. Even Andie was fine. But she is DEAD. Caroline and Damon...NO. Caroline is better with Klaus. Damon can only look better with Elena.They have undying chemistry, passion and spark. 😳


Woah. Enough. I am tired from typing now! 😆 I like your points, I respect your points, at least one of the SE fans(My Guess) can talk without saying DE sucks, without making DE a cheap joke, and blah blah blah. 😳 It was nice reading your points. And discussing it without cursing DE or SE. 😆

Originally posted by: FeistySoul

@TM...Agree with most of the point you said.
@iMadz... Have been reading your posts for a while.
I do agree with you on certain points
But what I would like to know from you is why do you call Stefan a hypocrite?
And I totally agree with you about DeFan.
Personally, I don't care which couple is the end game.
And yes! Sire bond, concept is stupid
(Here I was thinking only Indian Cv's could come up with stupidity)

Originally posted by: FeistySoul

@TM...Agree with most of the point you said.
@iMadz... Have been reading your posts for a while.
I do agree with you on certain points
But what I would like to know from you is why do you call Stefan a hypocrite?
And I totally agree with you about DeFan.
Personally, I don't care which couple is the end game.
And yes! Sire bond, concept is stupid
(Here I was thinking only Indian Cv's could come up with stupidity)