A question to women over here - Page 9

This content was originally posted by: HeadOverHeels

The problem is that this girl is currently trapped in a situation/family where two siblings are determined to always keep the truth from each other, in order for the other to not be hurt, and in the bargain, they both equally allow others to suffer for it. Their relationship alone is quite a toxic one, and borders on obsession instead of sibling love.

Okay, forget these two sibling's, why cant she share it with her sibling??

On the other hand, you have a young girl who is raised to do her "duty" even if it means she offers herself up as a sacrifice. That is her role, and there are times when she chooses to defy, but at the end of the day, she remains submissive and accepting of her lot in life. She has been forcibly made to choose this marriage against her own will, and whatever comes with it. And, I had this problem with the show right from when people suggested Arnav simply marry Khushi and the rest would fall into place. Sadly, what is happening now is not surprising in the least... Khushi has literally (and unknowingly) been placed in harm's way (Shayam) who was only going to get bolder in his intentions while she lived under the same roof as him. and, Khushi being Khushi (a great example yesterday in the Green Room) will NEVER think of backing out of something if it is requested by her husband's family (SPECIALLY his sister) as she remains duty bound to him.

She isnt submissive with Arnav, why submissive with Shyam is my question.
The least she can do is, get away when he approaches her, the smile he gave her while asking her to go with medical store, his intentions can clearly be known in that facial expression he gave, she could have gone out and just given route details to shyam , and she said she will go alone the medical store wasnt far.
She should smartly get away frm getting into such situation's. His obsession is reaching new heights daily. What im saying is she is not safe with him alone, he can do anything. Im talking in this terms, how can she alone handle such a man?
She though he would change but now she has realized neither Anjali nor his kid matter anything to him.

If I were in that position, I highly doubt I would even be married to a man against my will... But on the off chance I was, and had some lech after me... It would become public knowledge and to hell with ANY family, be they inlaws or not, who preferred lies and half truths over the real thing. 

Telling her family atleast Bua, Garima , payal should be done

Not a single person on the show who does things to "protect" their loved ones is actually doing their loved ones any favors, but instead is making things worse. And, that is what silence and lies does... it ruins people and their relationships, and builds up needless resentment.

Totally agree on this!! Very well put. They are in no way protecting rather putting their loved ones in more danger .

Her silence really, really bothers me, even though it is just fiction. I think before the big confession that people are expecting from her, she needs to find a friend. Confidante before confession.

@all: Thnk u for ur amazing replies. 🤗
Glad most of u agree that its high time she shares it with someone specially with Payal.

I am replying in the context of the story only here

yeah as u said i always think y khushi is sooo strong against arnav but not shyam ...i mean she has power to push arnav back but not shyam??

I think Kushi should knee him. If she cant then she should stamp his foot hard. Otherwise she should confide in somebody probably Payal to take care of that creepwa.

Firstly, Fab post! I read most of the comments and must say I agree with most of them.

I feel it's not Khushi's fault only and I wouldn't blame her completely. I would also blame it on the situations that made her act that way. I wouldn't tell her to just bluntly tell the Raizadas or Arnav given the kind of person she is and also given that the Raizadas blindly believe Shyam just because of Anjali's blind faith in him. They most probably wouldn't have believed her and would have blamed her for everything. They would believe Shyam thinking that they've known him for more years than Khushi and  he would never do such a thing. Sometimes we just land in a situation where we don't think about all the after-effects but just do what we feel is right at that point of time.

Well If i was in Khushi's place, I would definitely 6old Arnav about him. whether he will believe me or not and also keep payal and the guptas posted on what he is upto. Currently she is doing none of it and nobody knows whats happening.

Well I definately think she should tell arnav ..coz shyam is real getting more and more bold in his advances...and she should realise that this situation can not be handle by her alone..she needs to tell arnav for one more reason that is - he deserves to know that his jija is a creep...and his sister is getting betrayed ..

Divikins🤗