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urcrazy Senior Member

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Posted: 21 December 2011 at 7:35pm | IP Logged
Girls and boys both need to know how to cook...

I didn't like Bhabo today when she said that toChavi ...Would she say that to Mohit??? Definitely not!!

I can't stand gender oppression!!! SIGH!!!

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hamzanuha IF-Dazzler

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Posted: 22 December 2011 at 12:28am | IP Logged
Originally posted by ummesulaiman

I usually like to read posts silently, but whenever someone puts Bhabo down in the slightest fashion, my fingers seem to find their way to the keyboard LOL.  Everyone is entitled to their opinion and mine is that I love Bhabo. If you'll read my post again, you'll notice that in no way am I putting Bhabo down. If it came across like that, then I'm sorry.
She may be uneducated, but she's a very good judge of character and has a very practical way of thinking.  Agreed
You may call her thinking old world, but in the real world, only women who are able to balance both worlds are able to survive.  I hate to be hard on anyone of the fairer sex , but that's the truth of it.  Old world doesn't necessarily mean antiquated. Both my grandmothers were old world, but that didn't mean they were out of touch, merely that they had a more conservative way of thinking. Bhabo is just like that, nothing wrong in that.
Majority of the women in this world no matter how educated, career oriented, or "modern" they are, eventually grow tired of one night stands or coming home to nothing but the cat.  They do want to settle down with someone, and eventually feel their biological clocks ticking and do want to have a family. 
And unless you're rich enough to eat out every night or afford servants, you will have to learn to cook and clean.  This is not rocket science it's common sense, and almost as basic a necessity as the cell phone or internet is now a days. This is what surprises me about Sandhya's upbringing. Agreed her parents wanted her to become a police officer, but that didn't mean Sandhya shouldn't learn cooking. Her mother was anxious to marry her off asap, but she never bothered to give her lessons in cooking. Totally unbelievable! Especially in an Indian family.
A degree will help put food on the table, but it will be raw. LOL
I have a BBA & an MS, manage my husbands medical practice, homeschool my son, juggle numerous activities which require driving all over Chicago, conduct a sewing workshop for girls 10 - 15 years of age on the weekends, manage our finances, do our taxes, write a FF, and still make time to make sure my family gets 3 hot meals everyday.  I'm not as great a cook as my mom, but I've had more than one party guest say I could write a book. Wow! A superwoman just like my mother Smile
It's not just me... my mom, sister, aunts, grandmoms are all like that.  We all received training from our mothers like that before we got married.  They are all educated (MBAs, MDs, PHDs), but had the same opinion, you have to know how to manage your house before you manage your career, because no one will give you a break in that department, especially not your Saas. Both my grandmothers were from an era where girls were not educated, but their POV was the same like you've stated so no issues there.
By the way, last time I checked, staying at home, taking care of family, being polite to husband was called creating a happy home life not servitude. Confused I was merely stating how Bhabo had put it across to Sandhya (the impression created on the viewer) & next by Chavvi when talking about the result of failing.
Don't even get me started on Chavi...the way she's been portrayed so far...she is such a waste of oxygen.  She's dumb, lazy, and mean to Sandhya for no reason.  Let's not forget that she ditches classes to see movies and lies about going to the library to study so she can hang out with her friends.  So of course she was bound to fail...what would you do with an umambitious daughter who does that?  Continue to waste money on her education?  Chavvi is just another Vikram in different circumstances Angry For her studies are not for becoming a better person or for a better future, rather they're for escaping home & responsibilities.
Her mother is not marrying her off...she's only trying to teach her skills that she will need one day, else she'll be stressed like Sandhya is nowadays.  She doesn't want her daughter to have problems in her Sasural.  Does that make Bhabo evil?  I don't think so.  The marrying off idea was Chavvi's. But in real life, I've seen families where the daughter has been married off rather than educated (but not ignorant in cooking), due to various reasons. I don't think Bhabo is evil at all, strict yes, but not evil. She's like a coconut, hard on the outside but soft on the inside.
Sandhya's made it so far because she's got a supportive person like Suraj and believe it or not even Bhabo behind her (Remember how Bhabo took care of Dhai Sa and her "needs more salt" issue LOL).  Having said the real world not everyone's husband is a Suraj.  Agreed
Yes, Bhabo has a severe tongue, but like I've said before, considering what she has to put up with in the form of family members...I don't blame her.
The fact that Bhabo let Chavi study I believe is proof that Bhabo is not against education.  I too think when Sandhya's education will be revealed the problem will not be the education, but rather the fact that it was concealed by her and her family.
I think this is when Sandhya's honesty and the good will she has built up with Bhabo will prove to be her saving grace.  Bhabo will get over it eventually (I mean every Saas is entitled to a little drama...especially a TV Saas LOL).  And as Sandhya polishes her home economics skills, and along with Suraj's support, she'll win over Bhabo and whatever reservations she may have in Sandhya becoming an IPS officer. 
Suraj and Sandhya's marriage is like all marriages in a way a compromise.  Both will learn to give a little and change a little and learn from each other to complement each other...Phir hi to bane gain. ... Diay aur Baati Hum.

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Posted: 23 December 2011 at 10:40am | IP Logged
Originally posted by sita11

Originally posted by JustJ

Sita, DONT LAUGH, even now , i can manage cooking some curries , rice, rotis and all , but even NOW i DONNO how to make PROPER TEA *hides with embarrassment *

I didnot learn cooking untill i went to my sisters place in spore in 2008 , though i know never tried in kitchen before that 

ok ..i am not gonna laugh
here sandhya was not even knowing how to make the tea( i mean she was having no idea abt the ingredients ) was suraj who taught her how to make it ...

I don't find it surprising as her parents life time wish was to make her a IPS officer, all chances are there that she would not have been gone inside the kitchen. i have seen parents hand feed there kids even when they are degree colleges so that they can fully utilize their time to study. to be frank with you, I had not even tried to set the cooker till I got married. When I got engaged my younger sister came to me and asked whether I know how to light the gas stove. Offcourse my FIL had aske dme whether I can manage home na dwork for which i had said I will manage both but also told him so far I have not tried the cooking part. Stiil they were very cooperative when I first cooked there. Every one ate without any comment. later when I was about to serve my plate FIL came to me and advised me not to use the sambar as it was over cooked (burnt is the correct word he should have used) and i will not be able to eat it. I felt really ashamed and felt sad that they had to eat the burnt food. One more time I had cooked theladies finger in pressure cooker. after that i have stopped eating ladies finger (it was so pathetic) but still no one said anything and even consoled me that what ever I tried is too much for them and I should not feel bad for that.


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