Posted:
12 years ago
Ok guys, I was just trying to analyse the current situation from both Ram's and Priya's perspective, and I realised that neither both of them are wrong, nor totally right. Both of them had their own share of mistakes.
Firstly, I would like to mention that I liked the way they have shown the development towards Priya
finally breaking down and asking Ram about his past 😊. Initially, they showed
how she was walking by the beach and contemplating the whole issue. She
then decides she will not doubt Ram, but very naturally she reacted when
Ram came in front of her. I know,
Ram is not "emotionally" her husband, but I guess somewhere along the
line she has started loving him, thats why this reaction. If it was
just after marriage, am sure she wouldnt have been that affected as she
wasnt emotionally connected with him at all at that time, so whatever he
said or did wouldnt have affected her much. But eventually, especially
after honeymoon, we can see both of them are developing feelings for
each other. Thats why she reacted so aggressively inspite of telling
herself that she wouldnt ask Ram anything about this woman, nor doubt
him. Infact if you see, she is quite
mature enough to understand and interpret the situation reasonably well,
even though she got emotional. If it was any other serial, the moment the wife would have seen her
husband hugging some other woman, she would have run away from there and
immediately doubted him. But atleast Priya asked Ram directly
without/before doubting him. She kept saying, "mere dil aur dimaag mein ajeeb kashmokash hain", and that was a very realistic reaction to the situation. I'm sure however intelligent/sensible/understanding a woman might be, in such a situation the brains and heart would definitely and naturally confuse each other.
Regarding the conflict between Ram-Priya, as I mentioned earlier, both of them were neither totally right/wrong, having their own share of mistakes.
Priya's mistake was that instead of just simply asking Ram about who was the girl who was hugging him, she brought out those kangans and asked him about them. She kept repeating "mujhe aapke ateet ke baare mein kuch nahin jaana hain...", but kept contradicting herself by asking him about that girl and his connection with those kangans. She was indirectly asking him about his past, though she kept trying to camouflage it by keeping on saying "main aapke ateet ke baare main kuch nahin jaana chahti", but the fact is that to talk about those kangans
or that girl who was a part of his past, is like asking him his past
itself, but in an indirect manner. She should have simply asked him
about the girl, without bringing the kangans into the picture. If you have noticed, till the time she took out those kangans, Ram was calm and was feeling bad seeing her cry and was trying to console her, but the moment she took out those kangans only he became angry and agitated. It must have seemed to him as though she was hiding those kangans till then, waiting to take them out and question Ram at an appropriate time. Thats why he must have got annoyed.
Then, Priya also conveniently forgot that Ram did try to talk to her
about his past, but it was SHE who refused to listen to him and laughed
it off, and walked away. If she would have patiently listened to him at
that time, maybe he was in a mood to tell her everything about his past.
But the way she asked him with those kangans, obviously he wasnt in a mood to give her an explanation.
Now Ram is also not totally right. First of all, he should stop
screaming at Priya like this. And I cant understand one thing, if Ram was ready to
tell Priya the truth about his past previously, then why is he having a
big problem in telling it to her now? I'm just assuming the reason why he
had a problem in giving an explanation to Priya this time was because
he got really annoyed with her, at the way she just slapped that
question on his face, when his past seems to be a very delicate issue
for Ram. Maybe he was in no mood to discuss it with her because he dint like
her attitude.
But Ram also dint totally make sense...he told Priya that she
shouldn't be bothered about his past, unless he does something wrong in
the present, but what if his past itself is becoming a part of his
present? When Priya realised that Apeksha is a part of his past, she dint
even question Ram and told her that she trusts Ram, and even if she
was a part of his past, she doesnt care. But she took the matter
seriously, ONLY when she saw the same girl hugging Ram. So Ram was
letting his past involve in his present, so how can he blame Priya then? Not only that, he was also acting like a hypocrite when he asked Priya not to be
bothered about his past, as Ram himself was "bothered" when he THOUGHT
Ashwin was Priya's past, and the possibility that she STILL loves him.
He became really restless, and lost his peace of mind over the same. And it was the same Ram who did jasoosi of Ashwin to find out the
truth about his and Priya's relationship. Why at that time he dint
think "whatever!" even if Priya liked Ashwin? Why did he have to take so
much of trouble to find out about Priya's relation with Ashwin? So
wasnt he behaving like a hypocrite when he asked Priya to stay out of
his past, and his past relationships?!
So I would say, neither Priya nor Ram were totally wrong or totally
right. Both of them behaved according to the situation, and both of
their emotions erupted spontaneously and uncontrollably. Both of them
were hurt and disturbed, which provoked their respective reactions. And
now, both of them are trying to verify their actions and mistakes (Priya
in consultation with her dad, and Ram with Vikram), so I hope they
patch up soon 😊.