Posted: 20 December 2011 at 3:40am | IP Logged
Originally posted by BheegiBasanti
Originally posted by indiaforums1234That is what I felt too...he did not seem to connect with the word "gay" at all initially. I was shocked to see him come back shouting.
Based on the father's first reaction, where he said something like, what is this gay, what is the disease?, it didn't seem like he knew what being gay was.
But what did Vidya's mother know and how did she explain to the father after she took him away for a private talk? From what's been shown in the past, Vidya never clearly explained to her mother what the issue was.
i think you guys are right that he didn't connect the word and meaning initially, but when he came back and said something like "people like you should be burned," to me it was clear that somehow he got to understand that gaurav prefers men.
Originally posted by likarsh
There is another possibility.
Vidya's mother led Vidya's father away, he demanded she tell him. And
she tells him basically what the doctor said, that Gaurav has never been
But I don't know... his anger
seemed way than that. Yes that itself would lead to anger, but if it's
just an inability to perform, it could also have been a revelation to
Gaurav after marriage. (Not that the men really expect other men
to be celibate till marriage.) The way her father was sure and angry
that Gaurav married Vidya knowing his "state" makes me believe he
understood what Gaurav was trying to say.
yeah, especially since we don't know what Vidya's mother knows, it's interesting to consider what she might have said. I really doubt that Vidya's father thought it was only an issue of inability to perform - I would expect more man-to-man sympathy and awkwardness about the issue of impotence, rather than the rage-filled confrontation...I agree with what you concluded, that his comments about Gaurav knowingly ruining Vidya's life show that he understood what the problem between them is.