Another Similarity Arnav/Khushi - Page 2

true..similarity for arhi..agree on that.y they did so

Originally posted by: bidz

That is because it was his decision to get LA to RM to live in. It was his decision to get engaged. And finally, it was his decision to get married to her (on diwali day). It is pretty clear that he does what he wants to in this house. I think the anger is justified by the family members.

Edited by HeadOverHeels - 12 years ago

You just read my mind, I was also thinking the same thing. 

You guys have no idea how hard it is for me to post a shake of the head in response to something HeadOverHeels AND momma1128 are agreed on, but I seem to be in a contrary mood today.

I think almost all of ASR's hurts are self inflicted, in most cases the hurt comes from a painful past, but right now I don't feel that he deserves my sympathy, not this time. What has he lost, really? A woman he does not love, while the one he's crazy about just joined his extended family. How is he inconvenienced? La is leaving him in the smoothest way possible under the circumstances, this is the cleanest breakup I've ever seen in my life.

Why is he feeling guilty? Because until a day ago didn't he even clearly see his girlfriend as an person deserving of his consideration, and NOT deserving of his indifference and manipulations. When he realized this, he cut things off with her, and then comforted her for breaking his heart.

He has been mentally cheating on La since Khushi fell into his arms, because throughout their interactions, he has never not been La's boyfriend. He is feeling uncomfortable, guilty, stressed. Even regretful. He is of course, doing the right thing, in caring about the effects of this devastation on a girl who's done him no wrong, and who is giving him his freedom. 

But he is not losing someone he is in love with, nor watching someone he loves announce to the world the demise of their relationship. He is getting his way, again, he is free again from the bonds he himself created, and there are no consequences for him to face, again.

There never seems to be any consequences for him, the only thing that boomerangs back on him in the form of regret is in anything that involves Khushi. Nani was right, in saying his actions reverberate on everyone, but he does not see this to be true, not even now, when his family is devastated by also losing anew member, who they've come to accept and like for HIS sake. The whispers, Anjali's despair, even the taunts Nani and Mamiji will deal with-. He doesn't worry about it.

The family should not be stroking him on the back, asking him if he's okay, because he made this decision, and the person they should be feeling bad for is the puppet who's strings the entire clan all took a turn at yanking - Lavaniya. If they indulge this man further,  by running after him with arms wide open, it would be a slap across the face of the person he's hurt, and who deserves their indignation right now. He should NOT be "thik" right now. And sympathy is out of place when you have been unsympathetic to everyone else but self indulgent to yourself.

  
Edited by napstermonster - 12 years ago

Originally posted by: sunflower52

You just read my mind, I was also thinking the same thing. 

ASR was pressurized from the start, when Nani found out about him and Lavanya's casual relationship.

When a person is cornered from all sides. they tend to make wrong decisions. This is exactly what ASR did, by bringing La to RM.

When he finally broke off, then KKG being stubborn cornered him again and made him bring La back. This decision of KKG I did not agree with.

No one is bothered about ASR feelings. Just because he does not show that does not mean it not there.

In this I blame his family and KKG as well. Instead of getting angry at him and blaming him, they should ask nicely why he decided not to get engage to La. 

No one seems to understand him. At least Payal understood Khushi, here Anjali can not even see how much her brother has suffered and is still suffering.

Originally posted by: HeadOverHeels

Great post! 👏

Originally posted by: napstermonster

You guys have no idea how hard it is for me to post a shake of the head in response to something HeadOverHeels AND momma1128 are agreed on, but I seem to be in a contrary mood today.

I think almost all of ASR's hurts are self inflicted, in most cases the hurt comes from a painful past, but right now I don't feel that he deserves my sympathy, not this time. What has he lost, really? A woman he does not love, while the one he's crazy about just joined his extended family. How is he inconvenienced? La is leaving him in the smoothest way possible under the circumstances, this is the cleanest breakup I've ever seen in my life.

Why is he feeling guilty? Because until a day ago didn't he even clearly see his girlfriend as an person deserving of his consideration, and NOT deserving of his indifference and manipulations. When he realized this, he cut things off with her, and then comforted her for breaking his heart.

He has been mentally cheating on La since Khushi fell into his arms, because throughout their interactions, he has never not been La's boyfriend. He is feeling uncomfortable, guilty, stressed. Even regretful. He is of course, doing the right thing, in caring about the effects of this devastation on a girl who's done him no wrong, and who is giving him his freedom. 

But he is not losing someone he is in love with, nor watching someone he loves announce to the world the demise of their relationship. He is getting his way, again, he is free again from the bonds he himself created, and there are no consequences for him to face, again.

There never seems to be any consequences for him, the only thing that boomerangs back on him in the form of regret is in anything that involves Khushi. Nani was right, in saying his actions reverberate on everyone, but he does not see this to be true, not even now, when his family is devastated by also losing anew member, who they've come to accept and like for HIS sake. The whispers, Anjali's despair, even the taunts Nani and Mamiji will deal with-. He doesn't worry about it.

The family should not be stroking him on the back, asking him if he's okay, because he made this decision, and the person they should be feeling bad for is the puppet who's strings the entire clan all took a turn at yanking - Lavaniya. If they indulge this man further,  by running after him with arms wide open, it would be a slap across the face of the person he's hurt, and who deserves their indignation right now. He should NOT be "thik" right now. And sympathy is out of place when you have been unsympathetic to everyone else but self indulgent to yourself.

  

Edited by savi-tan - 12 years ago

A very good point 👏 Often in our cultures we think of family's honour and respect rather than focusing on the individual who is going through the pain..

Good observation.

No offense to u Head over Heels,but I totally agree with what napstermonster says.He was using Lavanya to get to Khushi.May be he is feeling all guilty now BUT what he did cannot be justified.Yes his character is slowly coming out of his shell but whats done is done right?I am not bashing ASR,but rather expressing my opinion of his past deeds.Everybody commits mistakes,his were little harsh,more like that of a business man .But  he ended his relationship with Lavanya  like a true gentleman.I applaud him for that👏