Great idea to consolidate all in one thread Juleka. thank you.
I think for the most part -- all social traditions -- not just in India but in all countries all over the world began not with ill intentions -- but really with good intentions to address some social ill prevailing in that particular time-space reality.
Now, when we look back on it with out "modern lenses" -- we cringe and think "wow, cant believe that social custom".
It is the same in our lives -- you know those stupid things we did in our teenage years/youth -- and now that we know better and have evolved - we think "how dumb was i to have done that?" But at the time it was the best we knew how or the best we had with the options in front of us.
So, I think naata pratha too must have started with something good in mind -- and right now, because we have access to terms such as "prostitution" and "commodification of women" -- this practice looks bad -- but within that particular jayetsarian anthropoligical construct -- it must have made sense to the local people in some meaningful way.
That being said -- I think that all rituals have some sort of structures of rules and a "code of conduct" -- which are commonly seen as acceptable to all members of the society and the two families entering into it in front of society.
In Phooli's case -- I think that these rules and code of conduct (I still dont know what they are)
have been violated, twisted and turned by Bharat and these naata in-laws to suit their own purposes. So Bharat and co. have not followed the "law" of naata (whatever it may be). One cannot enter into any institution and then start breaking the rules.
For instance - take institution of marriage - A man cant enter into a marriage and then start having an extra marital affairs because he wants freedom. Then dont enter into the marriage to begin.
Meaning, either line up with the institution or avoid it altogether -- but dont enter it and then start to break the rules of that institution.
Similarly, I am sure naata pratha also has some rules. And it is clear that these rules have not been followed. If it was so straightforward -- then Bharat and creepy mom-in-law would not have had to cook up the story of the first beendhni being an evil person who tortured all of them and they would not have had to go through the farce of being so nice to phooli.
They could have straight away gone to phoolis parents and made a trade of money in exchange for phooli's uterus.
(since she keeps saing "my gokh" so I am using the term uterus -- my intention is not to be crude)
If the matter was so straightforward, they could have just told phooli -- want you to sleep with me and give me a baby.
So it is clear that whatever the real naata pratha custom is -- what phooli has been through is some distorted, cheap, flagrant abuse of the rules and regulations surrounding naata pratha by bharat's in-laws.
It is hard to judge Naata pratha based on this case.
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