but reading this..well i guess it was a good thing u decided it was a lost cause..but i guess u did the right thing of telling her even if it resulted in the bad fall out..cz otherwise every day in life when u met her after that u'll feel guilty and think 'should I be hiding something this big from her?'
but i guess ur friend probably knows that what u say is true in a subconscious level..but as u said the guy fulfills his responsibilities as a father and a husband and is sweet with her in normal situations...so she must have make that unconscious decision that she will turn blind to all else that lack...denial and living in that happy place in one's mind is a manner of coping..u know mind is a fascinating thing and operates in surprising ways...it sometimes prefers to close out all unpleasant things so dealing with it is easier if u pretend it is not there..
and anyway think of ur friend's options..u said she had kids..and i guess rocking the boat must be a terrifying thought..
I'm sad that she lost out on such a good friend who looked out for her welfare...but well i guess the saying 'u can lead the donkey to the water..but u can't make it drink it' exists for a reason..
a prayer for ur friend...if not the strength to walk out..hoping she'll have the strength to endure..
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