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Nice and awesome post , neatly written and precise and to the point. No words yar man halka kardiya. Kudos to you
It is an awesome post. Actaully, however much I ranted yesterday night(which was a lot), I did think about the whole scenario too! I cannot pen down as flambuoyantly as you do but in a nut shell they are here:
Whether it's an arranged or love marriage, a truly happy marriage needs healthy compromises (for the duo as well as the families) from either side along with love and unflinching trust. In case of most of the families the compromise is only to a certain extent, however in our society still there are lots of families where the bride has to do most of it in a one sided manner, as family rules and traditions cannot change overnight(as you rightly pointed out Shilpa). But I feel that with time one can overcome a lot of hurdles, but for that you need to win the trust and the love of the new family! This journey may be not easy and compromises to what extent is the question? This is for sure that as more and more like us are getting financially and mentally independent before we embark on marriage the ability to compromise and accept is also proportionally decreasing! So the "who saat din track" I hope, is an eye opener for Navya and at the same time it should actually make her even more strong and sure of her abilities to adjust, win over the in-laws and eventually inject positivities in slow doses!
Navya-Sugandha: I agree with you, but at the same time knowing that her son really needs to mature and grow up I would have loved it if she would have talked to them together. The son will know his familiar better right! However, under the circumstances I think this is the best Navya could have done for the time being! After marriage slowly a wife can tell her husband a few things against the family or even the mom-in –law, but before marriage equation is a little different and the fianc might not take anything against his mom so literally!
Navya-RRA: I am a little disappointed in RRA. I thought they already knew how Anants family is, so why so much hoopla! And moreover how nicely ranbir had explained everything to Ritz just a few days back and conveniently she forgot it! I would expect a lot of support from them for Navya as they are the only ones who know both sides of the coin and also have seen her from childhood. Again it's the trust that matters.
Navya-Anant: I again agree with you completely. I personally will not want Navya to quit, true love is something which you rarely come across! Its very easy to say bye to a relationship, but not so easy to build it. Just imagine Renuka had a so called liberal in-laws, well to do husband but what did she finally get out of the marriage. All said and done Anant and Navya love each other truly, which is something very precious and to think of how many obstacles they have crossed already just being together. However, I don't like this J track at all, it really doesn't make sense at this point of their relationship which is not fragile at all. I still feel that Navya can cross every hurdle provided she has that rock solid support, love and trust. So, all I would want is a mature strong Anant giving eternal support to his lady and I am sure the lady will have all the capabilities to win over all the hurdles.
My major request to the CVs in this regard would be to bring back the strong sensible Anant and give him some maturity! That might itself solve a lot of problems.
Finally, this is completely my pov, thanks Shilpa for making me think. I said everything from my experience and wrote a lot!!
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