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jhansijhansi

@jhansijhansi

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Posted: 12 years ago

This content was originally posted by: tanvismile
A has earned the love throughout years bt g isnt asking the same treatment bt atleast a human treatment dat she deserves to get ,she got hatred frm al the members,the treatment given was of a homebreaker ,she never ruined A Life ,it was much ruined 4 yrs before.may its society who blames women for everything.It is natural tendency for a person to revolt back when she is unnecesarily accused.

sorry i din't like your message, i just did it by mistake..i will never agree with you not in this life...

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hooked

@hooked

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Posted: 12 years ago

This content was originally posted by: tanvismile
A has earned the love throughout years bt g isnt asking the same treatment bt atleast a human treatment dat she deserves to get ,she got hatred frm al the members,the treatment given was of a homebreaker ,she never ruined A Life ,it was much ruined 4 yrs before.may its society who blames women for everything.It is natural tendency for a person to revolt back when she is unnecesarily accused.

I normally try to avoid confronting pro-Gauri posts, but you do make an interesting point here, so couldn't resist.

U do agree that Anandi earned her share of love and respect thru time with this family and Gauri cannot automatically expect it. that is Good !😊.

It is also true that Gauri behaved nice with everyone on her first trip and didn't not see her smiles reciprocated which hurt her. U see Gauri's effort and her hurt, but do you try to see how hurt the family was feeling due to Jagya's act ?

The family was super mad at Jagya for coming there and flaunting his brand new city wife in everyone's face and not caring two hoots for any of there feelings - including Anandi. The family was punishing Jagya by treating him like a doctor and a house guest - they were again n again referring to him even thru servants as a "GUEST" who is denied the privilege of a family member - example - eating with the others.

Jagya saw his insult and the reason and kept quiet - he did not confront it coz he knew he had caused a lot of hurt. and also coz he is a coward. Gauri also is a smart intelligent woman - U agree ? She SAW what they were doing to Jagya. She SAW that all her efforts at trying to be pally with the others were not working coz they wanted to maintain a distance with both JAGYA and his NEW "WIFE"...

Why did she continue to persist ? Being intelligent, shud she not have seen that the family was upset ? Shud she not have realized that they needed time to accept her maybe ? They were not even informed or invited to the wedding and she expected them to do all her "NEW BAHU RASAMS" ?

Tanvi - U have to agree - Gauri went a little too far, too soon. She shud hv waited n tried to let them get to know her a little OVER A COUPLE OF MONTHS atleast !!!. she wanted everything and she raged and screamed and was a complete out-of-control-freak !! G instead of endearing herself to even a single person, ended up alienating everyone by her irresponsible behaviour.

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jhansijhansi

@jhansijhansi

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Posted: 12 years ago

This content was originally posted by: hooked

I normally try to avoid confronting pro-Gauri posts, but you do make an interesting point here, so couldn't resist.

U do agree that Anandi earned her share of love and respect thru time with this family and Gauri cannot automatically expect it. that is Good !😊.

It is also true that Gauri behaved nice with everyone on her first trip and didn't not see her smiles reciprocated which hurt her. U see Gauri's effort and her hurt, but do you try to see how hurt the family was feeling due to Jagya's act ?

The family was super mad at Jagya for coming there and flaunting his brand new city wife in everyone's face and not caring two hoots for any of there feelings - including Anandi. The family was punishing Jagya by treating him like a doctor and a house guest - they were again n again referring to him even thru servants as a "GUEST" who is denied the privilege of a family member - example - eating with the others.

Jagya saw his insult and the reason and kept quiet - he did not confront it coz he knew he had caused a lot of hurt. and also coz he is a coward. Gauri also is a smart intelligent woman - U agree ? She SAW what they were doing to Jagya. She SAW that all her efforts at trying to be pally with the others were not working coz they wanted to maintain a distance with both JAGYA and his NEW "WIFE"...

Why did she continue to persist ? Being intelligent, shud she not have seen that the family was upset ? Shud she not have realized that they needed time to accept her maybe ? They were not even informed or invited to the wedding and she expected them to do all her "NEW BAHU RASAMS" ?

Tanvi - U have to agree - Gauri went a little too far, too soon. She shud hv waited n tried to let them get to know her a little OVER A COUPLE OF MONTHS atleast !!!. she wanted everything and she raged and screamed and was a complete out-of-control-freak !! G instead of endearing herself to even a single person, ended up alienating everyone by her irresponsible behaviour.

@hooked

I like your points and also They were not even informed or invited to the wedding and she expected them to do all her "NEW BAHU RASAMS" ? this reason is enough for Js parents to be upset and not accept them immediately. .they are not ready to accept J, G is far behind..how can G expect that once J marries G they accept her and find faults in A and throw her out of the house because their son doesn't like A now, all the success that he is having now, the city life is because of A.

J was wrong and he knows that he never said that he doesn't like A because she is bad...he said his love is G that is all he is still sticking to that, but G wants to prove that A is bad and character less...

J is the main culprit, but G and her parents cannot escape just blaming J for everything...he fell in love with G and he did not tell her the truth, which she always reminds...firstly G did not fell in love with the J knowing that he is her childhood husband she never loves her childhood husband, she wanted to come out of that and marry a different person and live a happy life, but now she says that she married him not just she loves him but he is also her childhood husband...she thinks she has all rights because use ke sath anyaya huaa that jaab...then how can she say that child marriages cannot be accepted and A has to forget J now because he loves her now. G always cries that uskesath naaya nahi huatha choti se umar pe then does she thinks that she is doing justice to A...what happens to A if she was not brave enough...it is not easy in villages for a girl A to get married again...G ruined A life...if she was right person she would never allow J marry her or any one else leaving A...

she should have met A and J parents and said them what sort of person is J and warn them...

second when G and her parents think that what they did is right and wants all the respect like a wife...why didn't they inform J's parents or A about G getting married to J, why didn't G come to A before marrying J and tell her same thing and ask her to leave the house before she marries J.

Edited by jhansijhansi - 12 years ago

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woman11

@woman11

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Posted: 12 years ago

What exactly qualifies as human treatment?:

Does this qualify as human treatment?:
1. Allowing people to stay in your house, as long as they want, even if you hate them?
2. Treating them like guests----making arrangements for their proper food and comfortable lodging--even if you can't stand the sight of them?
3. Keeping quiet and not shouting back at a screaming, bad mouthing woman to comes and screeches at the family members--including elders like Basanth and Dadisa?
4. Never picking up fights or going after these people with vengeance even when they have hurt you, insulted you and ruined your peace of mind?
5. Never pestering them over phone or disrupting their "maze ki zindagi" by visiting Mumbai and actually letting them live the way they want, even when they have ruined the family, caused immense pain and have themselves never practiced the same principles of live and let live----they would just storm into the house whenever they want, totally disregarding how the haveli people might feel?

Does the above qualify as human treatment? Or does human treatment mean something else like:

1) Walking into a family in mourning and shock and forcing them to celebrate your newly wed status?
2) Flaunting your win and happiness in the face of a girl who has been abandoned by the man she loved dearly and is in a state of horrible depression?
3) Trampling over a grieving family and forcing them to do new bahu rasams when they don't even consider you as a bahu?
4) Slamming the door on the face of the dejected, depressed girl with her once husband to celebrate your own suhaag raat, and even more, asking her to bless you before your sexual union?
5) Screaming and shouting your lungs out at an innocent girl who has not only been most cruelly maltreated and is in a state of severe depression, but has never be impolite to you?

If the second list seems more human than the first one, then I have nothing to say. Maybe we should just change the definition of human treatment.

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Pranjjal

@Pranjjal

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Posted: 12 years ago

This content was originally posted by: hooked
I actually know a mother daughter pair who can't see anything beyond their noses and so can completely see where G's mom's comments and concerns are coming from. This lady wud fetch the moon if her daughter asked for it - truly !!

Everything will be Me and my daughter and her happiness. Some people can't think, see and feel beyond themselves -that's all. Gauri's mom is not just now like this. She was like this since she married off her beautiful,smart little girl as a second wife to a rich family's only heir - all for the sake of some money. When the Mahapanchayat nullified the wedding - it was G's mom who chose to abandon her terrified kid outside the Haveli n be rid of her.

As a grown-up when G was making a mistake by wanting to marry a pre-married man (let us for the sake of logic assume child Jagya and Jagat are 2 separate people), G's mom, hesitated for a bit but again gave in - NOT HAVING LEARNT ANYTHING BY HER PREVIOUS MISTAKE !!?
The last time - DS had lied - saying the first wife had become insane and these guys believed everything w/out bothering to meet the family or the existing wife. This time too - they agreed to Jagya's lies w/out meeting the family or seeing a lawyer ??!!

They made their bed - now they must lie in it...marry a liar - live with his lies.

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tanvismile

@tanvismile

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Posted: 12 years ago

hooked-ur right she should have waited,bt somewhere she biased,she had negitive impact in mind abt the family due to what they did in childhood may be due to dat she failed to connect to them ,secondly there was lot of lie involved told by jagat ,he also told her that family never understood him so may be she came with this baggage n watever j told her It wud reflected in them ,n when the family told them to go ,she wud have gone bt our kind dadisa made her stay n giving her fake hope n acceptance ,to use her weak points .then rasams come into picture ,dat too only puja.

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Monamie

@monamie111

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Posted: 12 years ago

Tanvi..i don think jaggay's family have done anything wrong with gauri at her childhood..infact when her own family left her..jaggya's family and anandi supported her and dey have taken care of her..so why dat bad impact will be there in her mind?..😕

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leo4ever

@leo4ever

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Posted: 12 years ago

yar somehow during the years she has been brtainwashed to forget that her parents left behind her at the havlei in barish only the whole night and singhs called her parents and even offred her education fund. it is her parents upbringing that has made her this revengeful

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dolly

@tiny15

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Posted: 12 years ago

This content was originally posted by: leo4ever
yar somehow during the years she has been brtainwashed to forget that her parents left behind her at the havlei in barish only the whole night and singhs called her parents and even offred her education fund. it is her parents upbringing that has made her this revengeful

i agree!! but i think wen she was left by her parents at the haveli doorstep she thot that now seeing her in this state singh family defntly accept her but singh family sent her back 2 her parents. so they'd no option left & had 2 accept her back.and 4 selling their daughter they'd 2 face the ridicule by villagers. though G knew & knows her parents were more at fault but cudn't blame them as she thinks they'd got enough punishment 4 their mistake but she thinks that singh family did wrong 2 her by not accepting her.

shes in a confused state & thatswhy she made herself as victim & she'd thot A as the cause of her rejection at that time. so shes revengeful also. though she wants 2 do sum gud 4 the abondonend gals as she'd experienced it but the same time she wants revenge. so she'd worn the mask of gudness & thats the reason she also finds A's gudness as only a mask & not a genuine efforts!!

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