Do you think Arnav is a cheater?

I have been pondering of this question for a while. Of course, Khushi and Arnav are the main characters in the show and I find myself rooting for them. But I have always been very clear about my position on cheating. Now I am torn about whether what Arnav is doing isn't emotional cheating?

He has gone and fallen in love with another girl when he has a girlfriend who is about to become his fiance. No matter how bad this Lavanya is, no girl deserves this. Imagine if it was Khushi instead of Lavanya, we would feel very differently then.

I adore Arnav, it's hard not to. He's so damn pretty in his misguided anger. We all know he is a good guy at the end of the day. But what he is doing, from the point of view of La is cheating. He's isn't realizing this error and has kept himself detached from La, but at the same time, he is leading her on. He has kept her in the house as his girlfriend, so they are kind of an item at the end of the day. What do you think? Would you say this is cheating?

His heart is someone elses, but to be fair, he's fighting as hard as he can to stay away from "the other woman" Edited by cxw1065 - 12 years ago

ASR is an anti-hero ! Period !Edited by -Nithi- - 12 years ago

I am not trying to bash Arnav. It's a beautiful character. And I agree he's the anti-hero. But say you were in a relationship with a guy, even if he didn't say "I love you," he would still be your bf if you were living with his family and about to get married. It is emotional cheating that he has fallen for this other girl.

Fighting it or not, he is quite physical with Khushi and attracted to her. And if he feels the need to hide it from La, it means there's something wrong there. I think he should have broken up with La a long time back. He knew how much effort La was putting in to be a good wife for him, but he kept her so that Khushi will keep coming to his house. I see that he tries to push Khushi away a various points but now that is not the case anymore. He is clearly pushing for a confession, that means he has reached a point where he wants to be with Khushi and not La. 

If I was in La's place, I would feel very wronged indeed. But guess she won't find out as they will not admit and get married under different circumstances. I just hope that they don't turn La into a vamp. Then the show will become like all the others.
Edited by Marybarton - 12 years ago

Originally posted by: Marybarton

I am not trying to bash Arnav. It's a beautiful character. And I agree he's the anti-hero. But say you were in a relationship with a guy, even if he didn't say "I love you," he would still be your bf if you were living with his family and about to get married. It is emotional cheating that he has fallen for this other girl.

Fighting it or not, he is quite physical with Khushi and attracted to her. And if he feels the need to hide it from La, it means there's something wrong there. I think he should have broken up with La a long time back. He knew how much effort La was putting in to be a good wife for him, but he kept her so that Khushi will keep coming to his house. I see that he tries to push Khushi away a various points but now that is not the case anymore. He is clearly pushing for a confession, that means he has reached a point where he wants to be with Khushi and not La. 

If I was in La's place, I would feel very wronged indeed. But guess she won't find out as they will not admit and get married under different circumstances. I just hope that they don't turn La into a vamp. Then the show will become like all the others.

umm...i dont know how many will agree but I think Arnav and Lavanya didnot share any livein relationship...i am sur that it was one sid love from Lavanya Side😊

Interesting post! I love La actually, yet I feel he is not cheating. Cause he never showed any sort of affection towards La, and La seems to be a smart girl, so she should have noticed that too - unless she isn't really THAT bothered- and that's the point!! She knows Arnav is not a romantic guy anyway, so she isn't expecting a loving husband either... to an extent.  Edited by HopelessCase - 12 years ago

Grey area ... not exactly a cheat in the literal sense, i.e he did not go and sleep with another girl...

Yes.

Arnav is emotionally cheating on Lavanya. Almost 90% of the time that he's with Lavanya he's thinking about Khushi. He doesn't give Lavanya any of the respect that a girlfriend/fiancee deserves.

I really don't like the argument that 'Arnav never said he loved Lavanya, he never made any promises to her, they never had a real live-in relationship' because he did make promises to her. Asking someone to marry you (or rather telling a bunch of strangers that you plan to get married) is a promise as is asking someone to move in with you and asking them to change their ways and even their personality so they can fit into your family better.

Whether Arnav has actually expressly told Lavanya that he loves her or not doesn't matter because he's well aware that Lavanya has this misconception about their relationship and he has done nothing to correct her of the assumption, going as far as to tell her that he's 'happy, very happy' with their relationship and their love and their wedding plans.
Edited by nayika - 12 years ago

I kinda agree with u. It is emotional infidelity on Arnav's part. Marriage is a serious commitment, not a game, like Arnav seems to think. Agreed that he hasn't admitted to himself that he loves Khushi, but even he knows he feels an undeniable attraction for the girl. He should have stopped and reconsidered his relationship with Lavanya. Instead, he made the most inappropriate and rash decision by deciding to marry La.
I'm not saying that he should have broken up with her, but the least he could have done was not get her hopes up. He seems to be taking advantage of La's navety.