Cvs!Please stop glorifying domestic violence... - Page 5

I agree- violence against women or anyone for that matter when depicted by the media is not a good message; I think though that Arnav will apoplogise- as he is shown to be a cultured person not really given to violence. The one who worries is Shaymless who is shown as abusive and one who victimises people for his own cause. For example, the way he beat the rickshaw fellow or the cyclist in one of the earlier episodes and then the way he abuses Bauji- violence can be from men and women to those who are weak ; and what of Buaji who is commiting psychological abuse against Khushi. Edited by reima - 12 years ago

I do agree with you, TM ... a suggestion - I think the title of your post should be Stop Glorifying Domestic Violence ... rather than Stop Showing Domestic Violence.

It's ok to show domestic violence - or any violence - on a tv show in my opinion, AS LONG AS you don't condone it at all ... showing Shyam mentally torturing Shashi - although it's sickening to watch, the villain is doing it, so the message is clear, THIS IS WRONG, it's pathetic behaviour, it's disgusting etc., etc ...

But when the "hero" of the show indulges in behaviour like manhandling the girl he supposedly loves, or releasing his frustrations on a servant, there are so many people ready to defend that behaviour just because he is the hero ... so his reasons are justified regardless of how wrong the actions are ...
In my opinion, his frustrations could be shown in a different way and equally effectively  - show him using some physical release for his frustrations - let him use a punching bag, go for some hard physical activity, hit a few squash or tennis balls - the guy is rich enough to set up a private gym, isn't he?  And as for hurting Khushi, he could manage to hurt Khushi by accident rather than design, and still be equally apologetic about it ... like the guest house incident ... it was not by design, and he was still devastated.

the fact that there are people ready to defend his actions is disturbing, to say the least. This post should be read by the cv's ... the hero may be an anti-hero, but be careful about the message going out ...

Originally posted by: DiyaS

I do agree with you, TM ... a suggestion - I think the title of your post should be Stop Glorifying Domestic Violence ... rather than Stop Showing Domestic Violence.

It's ok to show domestic violence - or any violence - on a tv show in my opinion, AS LONG AS you don't condone it at all ... showing Shyam mentally torturing Shashi - although it's sickening to watch, the villain is doing it, so the message is clear, THIS IS WRONG, it's pathetic behaviour, it's disgusting etc., etc ...

But when the "hero" of the show indulges in behaviour like manhandling the girl he supposedly loves, or releasing his frustrations on a servant, there are so many people ready to defend that behaviour just because he is the hero ... so his reasons are justified regardless of how wrong the actions are ...
In my opinion, his frustrations could be shown in a different way and equally effectively  - show him using some physical release for his frustrations - let him use a punching bag, go for some hard physical activity, hit a few squash or tennis balls - the guy is rich enough to set up a private gym, isn't he?  And as for hurting Khushi, he could manage to hurt Khushi by accident rather than design, and still be equally apologetic about it ... like the guest house incident ... it was not by design, and he was still devastated.

the fact that there are people ready to defend his actions is disturbing, to say the least. This post should be read by the cv's ... the hero may be an anti-hero, but be careful about the message going out ...

Thanks for your thoughtful comments and yes glorifying is a better use of words. I will edit the title.

Originally posted by: reima

I agree- violence against women or anyone for that matter when depicted by the media is not a good message; I think though that Arnav will apoplogise- as he is shown to be a cultured person not really given to violence. The one who worries is Shaymless who is shown as abusive and one who victimises people for his own cause. For example, the way he beat the rickshaw fellow or the cyclist in one of the earlier episodes and then the way he abuses Bauji- violence can be from men and women to those who are weak ; and what of Buaji who is commiting psychological abuse against Khushi.

Thanks for the comments dear. Yes, he might apologize...but it definitely does not make it alright. The damage is already done.

Originally posted by: anusarkar

Well, I cannot describe passion as manhandling ,yelling pushing a girl. I am sorry I cannot buy it. And about complaning to the Broadcasting Network...I won't if there is a change in his behavior and he apologizes. I am lawyer who deals with domestic violence cases and I cannot see television abusing its rights. 

Edited by geetmaanluv - 12 years ago

aww you are so right dear,   i so many times do think how i tolerate ASR
if it was a real life scenario then it would have been a serious issue.
he really has a bad past, scared of loving,  bang on  he treats kushi and servants so badly
a hopeless case 😡

then i console and say that he is a fictional character so waiting for the day he will change. because as this is a drama  it has to have highs and lows and lead lady has to change her man right. and he has changed.

And one more point is he is not bad from inside its just that he has built a harsh cover so to save himself from emotional hurt , he is actually scared of himself .

I would say that CVs have done a great job

Originally posted by: anusarkar

Your views are welcome dear. 

I understand where you are coming from, that the women are typically shown to be weak and the men fairly stronger.  Edited by sweetdamage - 12 years ago

I want to start by saying that in NO way should women (on and off this forum) think a man grabbing you to get his point across/release his frustrations etc. is ACCEPTABLE at ANY point. As for those blaming the woman (and in this case an 18 year old girl) for SEEKING him out, and not leaving when he asks... please know that again it is NEVER acceptable for a man to use brute force. It screams nothing but weakness, because 1) He cannot find words to express himself or 2) He is afraid to use words to express himself and 3) His need to be in control is driving him to be physically overpowering... Again, it's wrong, regardless. And, btw... An apology or 20 apologies mean nothing, if the same thing happens over and over again.

Originally posted by: HeadOverHeels

I want to start by saying that in NO way should women (on and off this forum) think a man grabbing you to get his point across/release his frustrations etc. is ACCEPTABLE at ANY point. As for those blaming the woman (and in this case an 18 year old girl) for SEEKING him out, and not leaving when he asks... please know that again it is NEVER acceptable for a man to use brute force. It screams nothing but weakness, because 1) He cannot find words to express himself or 2) He is afraid to use words to express himself and 3) His need to be in control is driving him to be physically overpowering... Again, it's wrong, regardless. And, btw... An apology or 20 apologies mean nothing, if the same thing happens over and over again.

ASR derives no pleasure from inflicting pain, and he regrets it almost immediately. His biggest problem seems to be his inability to stay in control around KKG. So, last night when he grabbed her, then pushed her away, it seemed a bit different... The look on his face... He wasn't able to hold on to his anger... not the physical part anyway. 

So, yes this IS his character, but I'm relieved to see changes coming about. I would however like to see KKG stand up for herself more. I'm getting tired of her scared expressions. If we want television to portray decent, non-violent men, then we should also demand they show strong, liberated women, who are able to stand up for themselves.