The Big Fat Indian Wedding - Page 3

Originally posted by: nishkala

Madhu...I started reading your post earlier but then gave it up mid way...thought a lot ,came back and again tried to read it...again I am not able to reach the end ...So Sorry!

The reason is simple...Deepak is not the first father to take loan or VRS for his daughter's marriage,My father also did the same 😭.!!  People often tell me that marriage happens once in our lifetime and we should enjoy each and every thing without thinking too much,but how can a girl enjoy her marriage when she knows the efforts her parents have put in...efforts which is never appreciated by the groom's side!..Luckily my husband is a well qualified gentleman who returned half of the money but Anant can never do such a thing...How pathetic!👎🏼

I hate it when people waste food served to them during the marriage,because they think it is free...is it really free?Do they know the amount of efforts spent on it...
Costly outfits which are never worn again in our lifetime,are purchased
Jewelery /Utensils / Flowers /Fruits ...everything is bought in tons.
all I can say is..In- laws are the only buyers in the world who don't pay a penny for their purchase!

Originally posted by: pixiegirl

Great post Madhu, you've captured beautifully the circus that the whole Indian wedding has been reduced to. The actual wedding ceremony itself, on the mandap, has become a pathetic sideshow during this grand affair, with hardly anybody witnessing it. Everything else is in the forefront. 

It really sickens me to see the extent Indians go to in the name of showing off, each one trying to beat the other. That's all people care about, bragging rights, w/o once thinking about the consequences of these ridiculous expenses. How many poor people could have been fed, clothed, & housed in the fraction of the amount spent on these weddings?? 

And the worst thing is even after spending such huge amounts of money, the happiness of the bride or even the couple is not assured.

When will our society change, if ever, I wonder.

Originally posted by: TheRoopsy

you have penned down the Indian wedding so perfectly form head to toe...literally it has been turned down to a circus by the people of the society...why can't they let two people marry without all this pomp and show? I guess they never will...you made me remind one of my articles I wrote after my sister's wedding...its titled "Band, Baaja, Baraat"😛

Originally posted by: mridula.shome

Madhu, a great eye opening post from you. Take a bow.
Well I knew things were quite difficult in a wedding. But I didn't expect things were such annoying too. I was not closely involved with any bride's side.
One thing is for sure, either I'll bear all costs of my wedding or have a simple marriage at the registrar office followed by a reception or not marry at all.

Originally posted by: cuttiee

nice post...

Originally posted by: nicky99

Hey madhu! 

You've jotted down completely everything on how Indian weddings are like. How the ladki walahs go through an emotional turmoil and bow down to every wrong/right thing asked by the ladka walahs. 

All the glitters and jitters associated with each side. Won't write much about it. You've already written everything 😊

And yes, I believe that it will not be OK if Deepak accepts the money offered by Om because that will suppress Navya's side even more. Already Om and the rest of the elders think Navya's family to be on the weaker side. I don't want Deepak to feel more shameful than he already feels. 😔

Originally posted by: Preet078

Madhu ...Brilliant post ...very well written d reality of Indian Marriage ...

Meh cousin getting married next month ...first time i involved so much in  preparation for any marriage ...i really surprised to see d guest list (i never listen even d name of most of relatives even meh cousin too ),gifts ..list is endless ...Meh uncle ready to spend each n every penny of his life on marriage not  bcoz groom side demands but just to show off ..n realized others dat he loved her daughter ...I never felt sorry for meh uncle not bcoz  he do all dis for his name sake in our khadhan ,,I felt sad for meh father who never believe in dis things but  i c tension in his face from last few days  for meh marriage  ..but thnx to meh mother who made him    understand dat  ,..grand marriage not equal to happiness of ur daughter ...n I told meh parents too dont worry about meh marriage either i elope😉 or marriage to person who n his family not demand a single penny ...

I know he is still in tension but one thing i know for me d most important  dey taught me dat  much i  earn something ...dats more than enough ...for me .n for sure dat person too whom i will selects a meh life partner ...