Everyone knows that you have to compromise in any relationship, but
how one goes about compromising is the question. Is it simply that you
give in because you shy away from conflict or an argument ensued, making it a win-lose situation? Or, do you talk about the situation and come
to a decision where both of you get satisfied in some way'making it a
win-win? There are many ways we compromise in relationships and
compromise doesn't mean that you have to lose every time. If holding the person back and standing between them makes you unhappy, then there is no way you can love that person and you and that person can be happy together.
When two people respect each other, they are honoring their rights as human beings. If one usually feels slighted and discontent with the outcome, then someone is taking advantage, while the other is being disrespected and not standing up for themselves. On occasion, there are always going to be two points-of-view in every relationship. How the conflict gets handled is what makes all the difference.
Love is...Love.
I find this reply in response to what you said pointless because the basis of the argument is completely different. Love has no definition. Love is just love. There is nothing else to it. Attachment and affection are two completely different things.
Here if one looks at it, Karan wants to be independent and that is where he feels his happiness lies (it doesn't matter right now, for the sake of argument, that this decision stemed from Hetal) so with that, the entire Bedi family should let him go. Because they love him, they should let him go where his happiness is, without pressuring him to stay with them. As that would be selfishness. Love is selfless and giving.
I can't imagine that, as that's where it doesn't make any sense. Love is love, happiness of our own is not more important than the happiness of the person we love. That is why Love β¦ is love. Whereas, infatuation may say "My happiness comes first" Love simply says "Your happiness comes first."
I'm not sure where being happy with yourself to make others happy came from, that's not really what I said at all.
The simple truth is, when you love someone, they come first, and happily so. Their happiness is all that matters and in their happiness lies your happiness. Provided, what you feel for them is love, this comes naturally.
The course of true love never runs smooth. There is no change in love? Yes, Love is eternal, everlasting and increasing. No one needs to change who they are for the one they love, but they do. Two people in love slowly blend into one, and as they blend into one, their personalities soon change as they become one another. That is change right there itself. But again, these are all technicalities; my real point is that, Love is sacrifice. Knowing Karan wants to leave home to be something, one should let him go. Only because he wants to go. One should not hold him back because they don't want him to go. They should sacrifice their need and want and love, for his happiness, BECAUSE they love him. Unconditional love.
Again, I don't understand where the conflict came from. Yes, every relationship has compromise, but that compromise stems from Love, in love for each other, as both partners truly love one another and selflessly give and give and give. Love is unconditional, it doesn't seek, and it only gives.
And, where Love, True Real Love, is the foundation, everything is possible. π³
Love is...Love.
I find this reply in response to what you said pointless because the basis of the argument is completely different. Love has no definition. Love is just love. There is nothing else to it. Attachment and affection are two completely different things.
Here if one looks at it, Karan wants to be independent and that is where he feels his happiness lies (it doesn't matter right now, for the sake of argument, that this decision stemed from Hetal) so with that, the entire Bedi family should let him go. Because they love him, they should let him go where his happiness is, without pressuring him to stay with them. As that would be selfishness. Love is selfless and giving.
I can't imagine that, as that's where it doesn't make any sense. Love is love, happiness of our own is not more important than the happiness of the person we love. That is why Love ' is love. Whereas, infatuation may say "My happiness comes first" Love simply says "Your happiness comes first."
I'm not sure where being happy with yourself to make others happy came from, that's not really what I said at all.
The simple truth is, when you love someone, they come first, and happily so. Their happiness is all that matters and in their happiness lies your happiness. Provided, what you feel for them is love, this comes naturally.
The course of true love never runs smooth. There is no change in love? Yes, Love is eternal, everlasting and increasing. No one needs to change who they are for the one they love, but they do. Two people in love slowly blend into one, and as they blend into one, their personalities soon change as they become one another. That is change right there itself. But again, these are all technicalities; my real point is that, Love is sacrifice. Knowing Karan wants to leave home to be something, one should let him go. Only because he wants to go. One should not hold him back because they don't want him to go. They should sacrifice their need and want and love, for his happiness, BECAUSE they love him. Unconditional love.
Again, I don't understand where the conflict came from. Yes, every relationship has compromise, but that compromise stems from Love, in love for each other, as both partners truly love one another and selflessly give and give and give. Love is unconditional, it doesn't seek, and it only gives.
And, where Love, True Real Love, is the foundation, everything is possible. π³