I'm baffled to read some of the views here.
When Manav did some common goof ups like not being able to give much time to his wife due to work, yelling at her cos of her low self esteem, misunderstanding her at times- then he was bashed incessantly and people used to say Archana should dump Manav for good then he will realise her importance, that she should leave that hell hole, that he is a 'wimpy dimpy' who should go to Ashna while Archana should move on without him. He was bashed everywhere, even on Ankita's profile page. And everyone supported such statements by clicking the like button. Mind you, these are problems which occur in every marriage- misunderstandings, ego clashes and so on.
But today, when Archana is doing something as bad as giving her child away to someone without her husband knowing about it even (this is what the original post by Jai stated, that IF Archana gives Soham away to Varsha without MAnav's knowledge) then they are saying that divorce is not the solution. I fail to understand why there are one set of rules for Manav and one set for Archana. :-S
@Bonne: The above does not extend to you and to other members who have maintained the same stand all through- that problems in marriages are not solved by divorces but through mutual understanding and discussion. You said the same thing when Manav yelled at Archana, so the above argument does not extend to you at all. I respect your opinion completely even though my views on this differ from yours. In the past I too have always maintained the same stand, that divorce is not the solution to any problem- understanding and communication are important.
If you read my post in Sherma's thread, I too said that I want Manav to divorce IF Archana gives Soham away to Varsha without his knowledge (bcos that is what people are predicting), not before that. In fact, I think some others members too said the same thing. In the opening post, Jai said the same thing- that he would not blame Manav for chucking them out if Archu does it, nt before that.
Before that I myself said that Manav should maintain his stand and not let Archu give Soham away (not in EDT, I wrote this in Written update thread). But if Archu does it, then I would really want a divorce in the show, or at least a separation in which both unite after clearing out their issues completely, as Mandy stated. My reasoning behind it is that if she gives away Soham without his knowledge then such an act would totally destroy the foundation of their relationship and prove that Archana no longer cares about her husband's happiness or desire, when he has made it very very clear that he loves his child very much and does not want to part with him. This is also a form of BETRAYAL. This act is as heartless as Varsha's abortion which was done without even informing Satish. Such things break marriages completely. It would be too tragic for Manav, and it would be very very sad to see Archana not understanding his painof having lost one child but still giving away his only living child to a psycho woman, her sister, just to appease her. What sort of a relationship is left then?
Edited by nikitagmc - 12 years ago
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