Posted: 20 September 2011 at 7:34pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by Dabulls23
Hetal is so much craving for love, acknowledgement and acceptance from her own mother Ambajee which she never got...It is mother's responsibility to help her understand and make that void to go away..Hetal's insecurities come from how Ambajee has treated her..It is not Mona who is wrong here it is Ambajee who is over compensating Mona and disregarding Hetal's mere existance..
In this forum Hetal will never get a break..She is perceived one way and that is it..She can't get a break...Always it is assumed Hetal has some ulterior motive and that being negative-selfish...
Sometimes people lose objectivity when they dislike a character so much..
i totally agree with you. And why cant hetal go and talk to HER sister. Yes mona might care for sejal but she will never care for sejal as much as hetal does because hetal is her real sister and has lived with her for so many years. And yes hetal has every right to feel insecure or jealous of mona because if my mom was to treat me like a stranger for so many years and be mean and harsh to me and then was all nice and lovey dovey with my sister in law i would be pissed. It is not mona's fault. It is all ambaji's fault who could not be a good mother. She was always at a distance with her kids and you cannot blame the kids for that. Yes mona brought a big change in ambaji but that was because mona was raised like that. Mona was raised in a family where people used to laugh, not care about rules and shared their feelings openly. But in the ghandi household the kids were not allowed to do that with their mother. Now ambaji has changed and talks to mona and shares her feelings but before she was not like that. So no one can blame hetal that she did not try hard enough to become a friend with her mother that is because she was raised to be scared of her mother and stay at a distance. And yes people, many daughters do feel bad when their moms are more closer to their DILs, it is human nature. Not just because hetal is bad. My aunt was never close with her daughter and always criticized everything she did but she was always nice to her DIL and would always praise the DIL in front of her daughter, there was so much resentment built between everyone that the DIL and daughter had a huge fight and stopped talking and now there is so much tension between mother and daughter. Of course hetal would feel bad that how can you be so nice to somebody who came into your life only a year ago but not be nice and that loving with your own blood.
And for the people who want hetal to stay in her maayka well she is doing everything in her power to make everyone comfortable there. She has accepted that house as her own but that does not mean she is not part of the ghani family and has no right to be upset with her mother or care for her sister. People need to get a little realistic, if you were going through a hard time or a bad break up who would you want to talk to your sister or your sister in law?