Posted: 23 September 2011 at 10:41am | IP Logged
Originally posted by dhruvie05
Originally posted by azuria
A very intresting episode. Lots of things happening. At last Runjhun and MD are acting like sisters and having fun. I like the cheeky behaviour of MD she has come out of her mothers shadow and is discovering herself as a woman.
Runjhun never had that chance and that is why she is not grown up in a woman personality. She is having symbiosis togather with amma and her mama mami. Since she never got their love she stablished her own symbiotic reationship with them That is why she has a very hard time living without them.
She has identitiy due to their evilness and now she is in a void she do not know anylonger who she is. Well she is married to Guddu but she is not gone through the process of detaching herself from her parentalfiguers since the relationship was not a healthy one. You can only have a secure and positive child parent growing and detachment is love is given to the child. Runjhun never recived any and thus her detachment has not functioned as others or like MD since MD was loved by her parents she has a easiertime of seperating herslef from her mother and father figures.
Superficially she would try to please Guddu but that is not what he wants he wants her to be happy so he will leave her again. Dont be angry with me for saying so but my guess is that he moves out Mama mami comes in and then they do something that makes Runjhun understand what they really are and that they would never ever want her to be happy and I think the crown bearer will be Mitho.
I would rather think that Runjhun is in strong denial, you could say even delusional about her mama mamis' nature and her relationship with them.
I hate to repeat myself, but think about all the atrocities that they have done with her before marriage, like abusing her, harrassing her at every opportunity, even trying to poison her Amma. After marriage also they tried to poison her mind against Guddu, and tried their best to separate them by chasing her, kidnapping her, locking her in that dark shack. They burnt their house and dreams, mortgaged PN, caused the whole auction..
What more do they have to do to prove that they do not love her or care about her and actually want to harm her and Guddu, that they are totally self-centered and do not care about anyone else but themselves?
I'm sorry but I am really not able to relate to her thoughts and feelings anymore. God knows I try to.
In fact its all the more reason to finally live her life happily with all her loved ones around her and without her mama mamis' shadows around. Expecting a closure from them is going to prove expensive and harmful to her.
Runjhun should learn to honour her husband's self-respect, dignity and decisions. She still looks at PN as her mama mamis house and does not show enough appreciation, gratitude or happiness about the fact that her husband has sacrificed his entire wealth to save it, just for her sake. If he is trying to keep her away from the evils, its only to protect them from harming her yet again. Expecting him to forgive them and let them live in the house is unreasonable and unjustified.
She really has to learn to let go-let go of her feelings for her mama mamis, let go of them from her thoughts and life, believe in the people who love her and care about her. She should learn to appreciate what she has and not lose everything for these worthless people who would walk all over her again, given the slightest opportunity.
Sadly, she might just do that like you mentioned in your last paragraph. I can actually see all that happening, given Guddu's history of escaping when he can't deal with things anymore.
Dhuruvi05 I like when people do not agree with me
Now to Runjhun and her behavior.
Well how many time do children listen to their parents about what is good for them and what is bad for the. Some 50-50 some 75- 25. I mean if I want to go out with some friends and my parents do not like those friends of mine I find out a way to go with may friends any how. I am saying it that what we want and what we think is not easy to change just because our parents think so or somebody else dose that.
I remmeber one of my friends told me that she is plannig to marry a man without her parents consent. The reason her parents said no was due to that mans liking to alkohol. She asked me what I thought about it. I said no matter what your parents say I would like her to wait a whaile and then decide. She was under 25. She said its her life and her decision. Today she say to me that she made a mistake, her husband is a alkholick and she livs a misreble life. When we talk that her parents said no and I also said her to wait a while she replies I was young and made the mistake. I did not know what was right or good for me. At that time I was in love I am still in love and all but...
That is what I am trying to say. You will not change the way you behave and I will not change the way I behave because its we who has decided how we want to be. No matter what the others say.
I took up the Symbiosis theory since it is based on interdependence and the behaviour patern is developed on that basis. In Runjhuns case it is Mitho that she has a very strong interdependency. Since it is Mitho who always complimented her that she works well and then made her work double. But that little praise was what she wanted there she was acknowledged. She always did first Mithos bidding then anyone elses. She is taking care of Mitho and Mitho is manipulating her. Runjhun has never ever thought about herself as a person. She was told that she is responsible for all. They still play that card that due to her not doing things or helping them they are having troubles. And she falls for it every time.
What I am talking about is a theory in Psychiatric dysfunctional relationship patterns. I am not talking just for justification of her behaviour. There is a lot on the subject on the Internet if you or any one else to read it.
And then everything can happen in a soap but we like this one since it has depth and is different from others.
Have you see Sailor Moon? Its a Japanees cartoon serial. Runjhun is like Sailor moon who is always nice even to the bad people whome she comes in contact with only the demons she kills if she cannot change them in a good person. She has that hope of finding good even in the most devilish things.