Posted: 22 September 2011 at 2:31pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by azuria
A very intresting episode. Lots of things happening. At last Runjhun and MD are acting like sisters and having fun. I like the cheeky behaviour of MD she has come out of her mothers shadow and is discovering herself as a woman.
Runjhun never had that chance and that is why she is not grown up in a woman personality. She is having symbiosis togather with amma and her mama mami. Since she never got their love she stablished her own symbiotic reationship with them That is why she has a very hard time living without them.
She has identitiy due to their evilness and now she is in a void she do not know anylonger who she is. Well she is married to Guddu but she is not gone through the process of detaching herself from her parentalfiguers since the relationship was not a healthy one. You can only have a secure and positive child parent growing and detachment is love is given to the child. Runjhun never recived any and thus her detachment has not functioned as others or like MD since MD was loved by her parents she has a easiertime of seperating herslef from her mother and father figures.
Superficially she would try to please Guddu but that is not what he wants he wants her to be happy so he will leave her again. Dont be angry with me for saying so but my guess is that he moves out Mama mami comes in and then they do something that makes Runjhun understand what they really are and that they would never ever want her to be happy and I think the crown bearer will be Mitho.
I would rather think that Runjhun is in strong denial, you could say even delusional about her mama mamis' nature and her relationship with them.
I hate to repeat myself, but think about all the atrocities that they have done with her before marriage, like abusing her, harrassing her at every opportunity, even trying to poison her Amma. After marriage also they tried to poison her mind against Guddu, and tried their best to separate them by chasing her, kidnapping her, locking her in that dark shack. They burnt their house and dreams, mortgaged PN, caused the whole auction..
What more do they have to do to prove that they do not love her or care about her and actually want to harm her and Guddu, that they are totally self-centered and do not care about anyone else but themselves?
I'm sorry but I am really not able to relate to her thoughts and feelings anymore. God knows I try to.
In fact its all the more reason to finally live her life happily with all her loved ones around her and without her mama mamis' shadows around. Expecting a closure from them is going to prove expensive and harmful to her.
Runjhun should learn to honour her husband's self-respect, dignity and decisions. She still looks at PN as her mama mamis house and does not show enough appreciation, gratitude or happiness about the fact that her husband has sacrificed his entire wealth to save it, just for her sake. If he is trying to keep her away from the evils, its only to protect them from harming her yet again. Expecting him to forgive them and let them live in the house is unreasonable and unjustified.
She really has to learn to let go-let go of her feelings for her mama mamis, let go of them from her thoughts and life, believe in the people who love her and care about her. She should learn to appreciate what she has and not lose everything for these worthless people who would walk all over her again, given the slightest opportunity.
Sadly, she might just do that like you mentioned in your last paragraph. I can actually see all that happening, given Guddu's history of escaping when he can't deal with things anymore.
Edited by dhruvie05 - 22 September 2011 at 2:52pm