Posted: 15 September 2011 at 10:47pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by nureat01
@Jzee: Actually when I watched the scene, the first sense I got was that Kesar almost BIT OUT that "yeh meri patni hai"...there was a grudging tone to it as if he wasn't too happy about pointing it out but had to...pata nahin kyun but that's how I sensed it...lol...I felt like Kesar's anger was still too much on the surface there for him to really be in the mood to think about their husband-wife technicality of a relationship...I feel like in all the years they were apart, it wasn't Kesar thinking I was seperated from my WIFE Gulaal...he was just mad at HIS Gulaal, period...all these wife wagairah labels only started to come into play when he came back and ppl started talking in rituals etc.
I know he said at the mandap that he grew up with this thought in his head...and I understand what he means...but I'd say at this point, all these thoughts had been pushed into a corner of his mind and the focus was just on the hurt of Gulaal's betrayal...HIS Gulaal.
Nur - it is absolutely not his 'My Wife' sense - I agree. I'm trying to say that in every way of being Gulaal and Kesar together, they end up with some nuance of being a couple. Technically, we don't see them as a couple to the very end. Yet all their interactions bear the signs. The good ones, and the bad ones. This mandir puja was just the estranged couple who wanted to still keep their business their own. Even though the strain shows to people. I think when the pandit gets his 'wife' wrong - a part of his agitation is from having to correct and point out and accept Gulaal's name in the place - but a part of it is exactly the contrary... you know the mild irritation one can have - he was tad flustered by the first mention of hubby wife in puja at Rohan's ceremony. At this point - there is no fluster. He takes 'initiative' to correct the fact - while keeping up his very cold and curt demeanor for Gulaal's knowing. You're right the idea is not ke meri biwi ko mere saath puja karao - in fact he might as well be irritated by that at this point - but he's certainly mildly icked by pandit getting the woman wrong - Oh I'm going round in circles.
Btw - yes, JK is crucial in bringing Kesar to his 'meri patni' genuine realization pangs. Her, and occasionally (although in much worse strains) Raman too. Its interesting, on that note - how both Talli and Dushyant in their own rights, trying to get Kesar to behave with Gulaal - are always more on the notes of 'teri Gulaal' - and not 'teri patni'. Like when Dushyant tells him Gulaal ko dekhe bina tere gale se khana nahin utarta tha! Aur the time he goes to knock sense into him - show him Gulaal's true concern for him, when Kesar is leaving Talsagra for city again... And of course, all the times Talli rebukes him for it ... curiously, these two manage to always talk along the tangents of teri Gulaal !
ps: To the caps in a bit