This content was originally posted by: tanvismile
Nways i dnt think they did wrong,nowdays people do breakup if there is no love in mariage.its just that the haveli people cant accept changes .how can he leave a ?leaving is bigest sin no mater wat,one can 10 affair s due 2 unsatisfied relationship bt nt remarry.
Tanvismile,
I am not a gauri or a jagya supporter. That being said I do not think they did anything wrong in falling in love. I agree that if at all there are any ethics involved in the situation - all these ethical issues should be solely levelled against Jagya solely.
Jagya was in the marital commitment to anandi (which involves fidelity)... and the marital commitment not to hurt anandi. He may not have understood what these commitments meant at the age of 8 when he made them. He certainly understood what they meant when he was in the age of 18-23 and he then had an obligation to break it off with anandi instead of keeping her in the dark. This is where I fault jagya.
Furthermore, to this day, I never saw Jagya even have a long-term game plan as to how his situation would evolve into a marital commitment to Gauri. If he truly loved her - he would have been thinking as to how to deal with the situation of anandi - if not for anandi's best interests - then at least for Gauri's best interests, if he truly claims to love her. Instead, he just sat quietly enjoying Gauri's presence in his bed at Kundatai's knowing fully well that this was going to reach a dead end- whether they actually had a physical relationship is not the question.
So the crux is - fine, he fell out of love with a and into love with G -- but did nothing to secure the future of either lady.
I absolve Gauri in this mess. Gauri made no such commitment to anandi. She is not part of that commitment to not hurt anandi and has no reason to think of Anandi at all...beyond simple grounds of human consideration.
However, my question is not triggered off from a pointing fingers perspective at Gauri.
If she were okay with the situation as it stands today, I would certainly have no problems with her.
But she herself is hysterical and cursing herself for falling in love with Jagya and having married him. This is why it triggered off my question - not to point fingers at Gauri for destroying anandi's life -- but to question what Gauri could have done to not have destroyed HER OWN LIFE.
comment:
p_commentcount