Posted: 26 May 2011 at 4:04am | IP Logged
Originally posted by tanthya
Originally posted by elle45
Just a question, Do women like Amma exist in real life?
Is it possible that a woman can be so jealous, so much against her own daughter-in-law that she would do literally ANYTHING to get rid of her? I have heard of stories where the saas has burnt the bahu alive... So obviously some MILs are pretty cruel. Thankfully I have never seen any such thing. Have you ever heard of cases where the bahu is stuck with an Amma like saas?
Also, what is the cause behind it? Would it make a difference if Amma was an educated lady? Or does a persons nature remain the same, educated or uneducated? (Coz I've heard of even educated women behaving in the worst possible way with their bahus)
Yes, Elle ..People like Amma and very much worse than Amma do exist ...
Very much Possible, here at least Amma has made her intention's clear and is overt in her behaviour but in many a real cases ..it will be emotional and psychological abuse , added to that the girls family will be brought into the pic , and share of abuse will be reserved for them too...its not just jealousy, it's also fear of losing the favoured position in Son's life , Loss of control over Son and a insecurity that if a DIL is treated with loove, she may climb the ladder to rule the roost..hence keeping her down the pecking order ...Having said that , let us not say that all DIL's are fresh , innocent flowers ..sometimes they can be very cruel too..
Many a times, it is educated people who will be worse offender's..
So, the MIL is really something to dread.. How a woman can be so jealous of the attention her son gives his wife is beyond me... the two relations are so vastly different, one's a mother, the other a wife. Each has its own place, just like we have our own love for our father, brother, sister, kids. Why is this jealousy limited to the Saas and the bahu though? Some is also seen in the Bhabi-Nandh relationship I guess. Is the jealousy trait limited to the females?
No, not all DILs are innocent creatures, one of my Aunts is constantly on the recieving end by her bahu, so much mental torture, that she's now reduced to a frightened kitten. Reminds me of a show I saw on TV recently... the host was saying that when girls pray for a good husband, they should also pray that they get a good MIL... or no MIL at all!!!