Posted: 26 May 2011 at 9:47pm | IP Logged
Kavitha, I love your post. It is such a fascinating point of view that Nivi's love is the kind
of universal selfless love one feels for all humanity. (And not everyone is able to feel that, it is love of a very high order). She has never known or
felt a woman's love for her man or her lover. She is getting there with Viren, but is still not fully there.
So she just doesn't regard, think of, or count her own happiness and by extension the happiness of
those who already love her as an issue...her love is directed toward filling gaps,
going to places where love does not exist. Hence this seemingly perverse pull
towards DD, HL, CC who never gave her the love the others did. She
subconsciously perhaps feels that that hate can be overcome if she pours her love into
these dark places. Very interesting idea...
Maybe that is what they meant in the beginning when they said pyar hokar bhi pyar se hai inkar...still, what happens in the everyday life of such a person? Does she invite tragedy as everyone is saying for Nivi now? How does she redeem the very true love that those who love her have invested in her? How does she fulfil her duties to all - to her husband and lover, to her family, to her dadi (her mentor)...to herself?
Dadi is just the opposite of Nivi in a sense -- down to earth, solid, aware of human frailties and failings, strong but aware enough that there are limits to everything, good and bad. Nothing in its extreme ever works or brings happiness. She has always tried to show the middle path to Nivi, her stubborness notwithstanding...and has seen Nivi falter (during sacrifice for DD, her sudden decision to marry Viren and later with Dwita...). So I am really curious how Dadi will respond to all this now. What will she say? What will she feel? What will she do?
Guilt corrodes. We are seeing how it has eaten away nivi's sense of proportion and propriety (yes, propriety, given how she refused to honor the unfairness to Viren and change her decision despite DS, and everyone else's counsel that this is wrong and uncalled for...). So how will the CTs resolve this? Will she begin to accept the meaning of real, worldly love and the responsibility that goes with it, or is this a path of self-destruction? I know the latter will never happen. She will come out of it. Sid's showing her her boundaries will surely have an effect...She does listen to him at some deep inner level, I think because she's so confident of his goodness. Sometimes I wish they would show her talking heart to heart with VIren, sharing her bafflement at what she is feeling, what she is going through, what she is doing and the anguish she feels at the janus faced nature of the outcomes -- that she is hurting badly those who love her for the sake of an imagined responsibility of a different kind of love...and it would be nice if he could talk to her and if they together came out of this spiral, perhaps eventually enabling her to finally accept the love that she has so far denied or taken for granted (?) or at least not fully understood or reciprocated...for her love (him), for the others...
Don't know where they will go with this. My only plea is that they keep their sentimental definitions of mahanta out of this, and show us something much more human, falible and at the end, believable.
Sorry for the long post, but what you wrote was very fascinating...
Edited by minu2011 - 26 May 2011 at 9:52pm