Who is really to blame here?

Actually I blame Pitaji for all these problems.  Why is he helping Pashu keep the hatred for Malti alive.   In these situations usually a parent helps their child to move on with their lives.  No parent wants to see their child grow old & bitter the way Pashu is heading right now.  I understand Pashu's attitude a little - dont we all have in-laws problems (both Pashu & Malti experienced this). As for Pitaji's hatred towards women, I dont get it.  His son's unsuccessful marriage & Dadaji ending up in a wheelchair is sufficient reason for him to hate Malti & her mother, NOT ALL WOMEN.  Specially since it was shown he has a good wife & mother.

i totally see your point. i think you are right, but its hard for pitaji to be the mother and the father. Single parent life is not fun. and with 5 boys too. i think unfortunatly he could only play the father. its just a sad situation.