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Posted: 23 May 2011 at 10:19pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by Summer3

Originally posted by punjabi#1


He knows her better then she knows herself at times. He knows what makes her happy and what makes her sad. She shouts and screams and is never agreeable to what he wants but he still doesn't get mad, just says whatever she wants will happen. 

He knows that she does not love him, as much as he loves her. But he doesn't care, he just wants to see her happy.

 
Based on what is written above, the guy should look for someone who really loves him.
 
Looks like the gal is finding excuse and does not really love him, but loves the convenience of having him around to do things for her.LOL
 
 

lol, I will pass this comment on. I do agree she seems to enjoy pushing his buttons and seeing what he can do for her.

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Posted: 23 May 2011 at 10:24pm | IP Logged
Ha Ha . LOL
 
Sometimes we tend to take people for granted.
But she should not play hard to get especially if he is good looking and has a good character.
 
How will she feel if he marries someone else ?
 
But she should see what other options she has.


Edited by Summer3 - 23 May 2011 at 10:25pm
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Posted: 23 May 2011 at 10:38pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by Summer3

Ha Ha . LOL
 
Sometimes we tend to take people for granted.
But she should not play hard to get especially if he is good looking and has a good character.
 
How will she feel if he marries someone else ?
 
But she should see what other options she has.

She'll live because she knows it is bound to happen. She even jokes about it to him. He on the other hand is doomed, he knows she will marry someone else, when her family arranges it but still every time that topic comes up, he gets teary eyed. He is more deeply involved then she is. 
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Posted: 23 May 2011 at 10:40pm | IP Logged
If you plan on telling someone that you love them and entering a relationship, then you ought to have the strength and conviction to stand by your choices no matter what.

If like many Indians family is your number one priority and you will pick family no matter what either
- don't get into a relationship and play with emotions
- be honest and upfront about your commitment family

If you are honest and upfront about family there are other choices
- both people agree that if families oppose they are willing to wait, battle it out until families agree
- if family opposes both people will agree to walk away with broken hearts
- engage in short term open relationships

There are caveats though engaging in relationships when your family will oppose
- Not everyone is strong and can play the waiting game. They may give up and walk away
- There is always a risk of living life in regrets and what ifs, when things don't work out
- There will be a whole lot of confusion and frustration and back and forth if you should be "just friends" or "never ever see each other again". Especially if both of you disagree with what should be done.

Personally, I don't feel there is anything immoral or wrong to love someone whom you can never be with or engage in a relationship that will fail. The key is in knowing that love is not always a two way street and sometimes relationships just don't work out. What is immoral is cheating or being untruthful about your past.

I personally am also against the sever all ties and never ever see each other, thats the course if you were with some jerk/b**ch or some horrible person of sort. Theres no reason why grownups can't accept that life can be difficult and be part of each others lives as friends and other non romantic, nameless, platonic relationships.

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Posted: 23 May 2011 at 10:54pm | IP Logged

Pata nahe log itna darrtha hey tho Pyaar kyu karte hey!!! If the lovers ,they r really in true love..their focus only the love,they dont bother abt other things until marriage  But now a days people start think in practical way, if society ,relative,friends n everybodies accept then they think their life will secure...!! thats BSConfused

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Posted: 23 May 2011 at 10:59pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by Believe

Pata nahe log itna darrtha hey tho Pyaar kyu karte hey!!! If the lovers ,they r really in true love..their focus only the love,they dont bother abt other things until marriage  But now a days people start think in practical way, if society ,relative,friends n everybodies accept then they think their life will secure...!! thats BSConfused


Whats more important 21 years of love given by parents or having loved someone for 5/6 years? 

why shouldn't one think of their families in this day and age when marriages don't last?
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Posted: 23 May 2011 at 11:35pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by punjabi#1

Originally posted by Summer3

Ha Ha . LOL
 
Sometimes we tend to take people for granted.
But she should not play hard to get especially if he is good looking and has a good character.
 
How will she feel if he marries someone else ?
 
But she should see what other options she has.

She'll live because she knows it is bound to happen. She even jokes about it to him. He on the other hand is doomed, he knows she will marry someone else, when her family arranges it but still every time that topic comes up, he gets teary eyed. He is more deeply involved then she is. 
Ah poor guy seems to be barking the wrong tree.
Everything is working against him.
Firstly the gal has him in her little finger and is taking him for a ride, Her parents do not want him.
 
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Posted: 23 May 2011 at 11:42pm | IP Logged
Why do guys want what they can't have?

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