This content was originally posted by: *Woh Ajnabee*Why are "her" parents refusing this match? Do they have a valid reason?
This content was originally posted by: punjabi#1both the boy and girl are from same village and they don't approve of marrying in the same village. Even though the couple share no blood relation in anyway, shape or form.Also, the parents don't think the boy is educated enough for their daughter or rich enough.They would/do approve him marrying a cousin from a different village, just not approve him for her. Her parents love the boy and treat him like a son and he treats them with the same respect as his parents.
This content was originally posted by: punjabi#1
both the boy and girl are from same village and they don't approve of marrying in the same village. Even though the couple share no blood relation in anyway, shape or form.Also, the parents don't think the boy is educated enough for their daughter or rich enough.They would/do approve him marrying a cousin from a different village, just not approve him for her. Her parents love the boy and treat him like a son and he treats them with the same respect as his parents.
In Punjab most of the times being from the same village means you have had same ancestors which in turn means you are long distant cousins. Even if you don't share the bloodline, kids from same villages are prohibited to marry one another as they are brought up as brother and sister [even though they may not be first cousins] to each other.
This content was originally posted by: blue-ice
So the parents DON'T have a valid reason...they are just being stubborn and care more about their feelings rather than their daughter's happiness...
Well in my opinion...the girl has two options...
The first one is to go against the wishes of her parents...the parents do not have a reason to stop them from being married...if what ever u have written is true then I don't have any sympathy for her parents anyways...
The second option is to stop meeting the boy...or even think about using his money..which is ridiculous in the first place...I mean what kind a girl would use a boy's money knowing that there is no future for them...maybe she will get over that boy and get married to a boy of her parents' choice...which is sad...
BTW are the boy's parents ready to accept her?
This content was originally posted by: Angelic_JIn Punjab most of the times being from the same village means you have had same ancestors which in turn means you are long distant cousins. Even if you don't share the bloodline, kids from same villages are prohibited to marry one another as they are brought up as brother and sister [even though they may not be first cousins] to each other.
I don't think the topic maker's parents are simply being stubborn as it clearly shows they adore and love the boy. I don't really blame them since they have always viewed the guy as their "son" hence as a brother to the girl in question. Marriage of these two would be out of the question for them. However, the only thing I can say is perhaps the guy and the girl should first talk to their parents instead of jumping to their own conclusions. Who knows maybe the parents might just agree although I wouldn't count on it =]
This content was originally posted by: punjabi#1
She loves her parents and respects them too much to against them, so that is impossible for her. The boy did offer to run away, she said no.The second option about not meeting him anymore is not possible either. The families are really close so they always end up around each other and even work together occasionally. The only way for her never to see him again is get married and move far away. which is hard for her because she realized the only reason he stuck around here and worked with her parents is because of her. He had enough savings to move back to where he came from and be with his friends. Today he has no life and works all the time because it helps him stay close to her.Lastly, the boys parents adore her. They don't allow him to tease her, say anything stupid to her. Every time she goes to his house, she is treated like a queen, his mother dots on her. And when her mother says something negative about her, it is his mom that yells at her mom and defends her. They are constantly going on about how great she is and whatever family she marries into will be the luckiest family ever.
This content was originally posted by: blue-ice
There are a lot of old traditions and beliefs that are either wrong or do not make sense in today's world...What is the population of a village?...I am guessing several hundreds if not thousands...and nobody in the same village is allowed to fall in love and marry...does that seem practical to u?
And lets talk about the couple in question...obviously they never thought of each other as brother and sister...then how does it matter..as long as they both love each other and they are not related...what is wrong if they get married...don't u think its about time that somebody put some sense in village elders...
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