Originally posted by: anjubala
Sana, thanks for this post..
And I will not say that I agree to you 100%. Yes some points are definitely valid. But let me remind you most of us were pissed with Viren when he was revealed as stalker. We bashed him left, right and center. I guess you have forgotten those days. That was the time again these wars started but we as NiVren fans never supported Viren for doing what he did. Yes, we did support him later on when his feelings were revealed. So now too at this moment Nivi is not correct but later on when we will be shown why then we will support her. It is not that I am saying we are not supporting her, it is just that we are questioning her stand the way we questioned Viren's stand.
I am married and have kids so for me to see that kind of behavior from sanskari girl like Nivi is not gelling well. I am not able to digest that kind of screaming or point-blank refusal to her husband. These things can be sorted out in private. More than refusal to have baby, I am not able to tolerate the yelling infront of his family. Does she realize that she is able to take care of Dwita because of Viren only? Because Viren put Dwita in her lap? Because she is in Sood house because of Viren? Everything is inter-connected and you cannot selectively chose relations..
And Sana, sometimes having the physical relationship between husabnd-wife during these stressful times can be a boon as it helps in relieving you from stress, worries...Talking about baby does not mean that do it now or it will happen now itself.. These things take time and it is not magic that Viren says let us do it and baby will pop out.. Romancing and being lovey-dovey can actually help Nivi to come out from this guilt mode too..But i guess she does not want to.
If we can bash Siddharth, Chanchal, Viren, Divya then why not Nivi???? We have supported her always and we will support her in future too but the current situation demands or is showing us something else. She always does what she thinks is right..kyon baki sab kya bewakoof hain?? She gave up Sid because of DIvya even without asking him..It was his life too that was getting affected by this decision..still she went ahead... is that samajhdhari... then she got married to Viren against wishes of her dadi and without knowing him that well... was that samajhdari???? she took all the sweet time in the world to start reciprocating to him and then stalker track...then separation track...then going to meet Bhaiyiji alone in the night - was that samajhdari???? so we have been shown that NIvi is not perfect either but we have supported her.. But what she did on Friday ticked me off.. And I am really upset with her.. You cannot keep taking any one for granted..and specially when you love that person. It has to be a 2-sided reciprocation and not 1-sided. If she apologizes, explains her reaction, behavior, justifies it then I will see if she is right. Until then, I am not going to say anything about it.
CCBM mein sabki weaknesses dikhayi hain but everybody gets away with it except Viren.. There is limit to it... Or I guess it is best to keep mum and keep seeing the manipulations happening and not open the mouth.. Just stand there like a statue...that has worked in this serial and that has been shown that running away from problems is the best solution to avoid problems instead of facing them.
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