Posted: 25 May 2011 at 11:12am | IP Logged
Originally posted by gangubai1
Toasty had to leave the house not because she was voted out, but because she failed in building the trust in her family members. Easy to say that Tej should've trusted her, but she failed repeatedly in building that trust. ... and Trust like Love has to be earned. She should definitely go back, not because of any wishy-washy reason, but because she clearly wants to.
She did not want to leave the house, she admits that she made a mistake, and she wants to go back to the Chaturvedi house. There is no reason then that she should not go back, once she has succeeded in building the fences.
Her ouster from the family home can be seen as an opportunity for her to earn that trust and respect from her family. So far she has succeeded in earning their love and acceptance, now for stage 2.
she made a mistake unknowingly, which does not amount to going against your family. and what trust has she failed in building??? I'm sorry, but trust is not always 'hey, i don't care what everyone is saying and i dont need to hear anything from u...i know ull always be right'...its also about seeking clarifications and talking to the other person before passing a judgment...and did Tej give Toasty a chance to clarify?? nopes, he did not...she kept on begging for a chance to put across her side of the story but he, and the rest of the family members did not give her a chance to say anything.
it's not her who needs to gain trust now...its the chaturvedi family, and they damn well work hard on doing that because they are idiots of the highest order who need to be taught that rationality and calmness help situations, not nursing past hurts and judging everyone by comparing them to that one eprson who hurt you...